I’m a Bad Mom Because I Let My Daughter Appropriate Another Culture. [VIDEO]

I’m a Bad Mom Because I Let My Daughter Appropriate Another Culture. [VIDEO]

I’m a Bad Mom Because I Let My Daughter Appropriate Another Culture. [VIDEO]

By now everyone who surfs the internet, and especially social media, knows all about the brouhaha over a prom dress. You know, the Asian-style dress that a girl of the Caucasian persuasion wore to prom. Immediately the Twitter mob descended upon her for daring to ‘appropriate another culture.’

Here’s the original tweet:

And here’s how one offended jack wagon decided to respond. Notice the number of likes and shares he got.

Here’s another hissy fit:

And now, dear readers, I am here to confess that my daughter also culturally appropriated a dress that was nearly identical. Furthermore, I helped her choose it, and I paid for it. In other words, I enabled her. Gasp!

Never mind that this happened back in pre-woke 1998, when my daughter was a high school sophomore attending her first Homecoming Dance. You see, she’s not Asian. Not at all. In fact her heritage is very northern European: East Prussian, Swedish, British. But, as her mother, I should’ve been more woke, right? Instead, I was kinda thrilled that she was wearing a dress with a high mandarin collar, not a dress that showed off her (ahem) assets.

I would show you a picture of it, but I can’t find one anywhere. It appears to be gone with the wind. Oops, that’s the name of a racist movie. See what I did there?

Sorry if I triggered anyone.

But guess who doesn’t get all huffy about that Asian prom dress?  Real Chinese women who live in mainland China. In fact, one woman wrote:

“Very elegant and beautiful! Really don’t understand the people who are against her, they are wrong! I suggest the Chinese government, state television or fashion company invite her to China to display her cheongsam!”

Yet another another woman wrote at Weibo, the social media platform in mainland China:

“Culture has no borders. There is no problem, as long as there is no malice or deliberate maligning. Chinese cultural treasures are worth spreading all over the world.”

Take that, American social justice warriors!

Now I’m a Baby Boomer, and while my generation did a lot of stupid stuff, one thing we didn’t do is get all bent out of shape about embracing other cultures. In fact, we sort of welcomed it.

Take, for example, George Harrison of the Beatles. He’s my favorite of the four, partly because he incorporated the Indian sitar into their music, as well as in his solo work after the band broke up. Harrison’s Indian music may not be your cup of tea, but I enjoy it. Moreover, Harrison and Ravi Shankar, the Indian sitar maestro who taught him to play, became lifelong friends until Harrison passed away in 2001.

Can you imagine if social justice warriors were around back in the day? This wouldn’t have happened:

And, if these moronic SJW’s could have their way now, people who are not part of their victimization crowd would not be able to dine on Chinese food, or practice yoga, or even marry out of their ethnic groups. My husband and I wouldn’t enjoy our favorite Mexican restaurant, and I’d have to delete all my Bob Marley tunes. Yeah, that’s not gonna happen.

And as for my culturally appropriating daughter . . . well, she didn’t stop with the Chinese-style dress. At the end of her junior year, she began dating a Hispanic boy in her class. The romance lasted all the way through their college years, and three weeks after she graduated from her college in Iowa, and he from the U.S. Naval Academy, they got married. She committed the ultimate appropriation: marrying a Latino and taking his last name. I now have two adorable Anglo-Latino grandchildren.

But I was a bad, bad mom for letting my daughter ‘appropriate’ not only an Asian dress, but a young man from another ethnicity. And you know what? Both her dad and I are thrilled. We can’t imagine having a better son-in-law. So don’t let the SJW’s bullshit you:  cultural appropriation is really a good thing.

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Kim is a pint-sized patriot who packs some big contradictions. She is a Baby Boomer who never became a hippie, an active Republican who first registered as a Democrat (okay, it was to help a sorority sister's father in his run for sheriff), and a devout Lutheran who practices yoga. Growing up in small-town Indiana, now living in the Kansas City metro, Kim is a conservative Midwestern gal whose heart is also in the Seattle area, where her eldest daughter, son-in-law, and grandson live. Kim is a working speech pathologist who left school system employment behind to subcontract to an agency, and has never looked back. She describes her conservatism as falling in the mold of Russell Kirk's Ten Conservative Principles. Don't know what they are? Google them!

  • Nina says:

    My ancestry is English, Scottish, German, and Icelandic. Yet I also wear, quite often, a beautiful gift my grandparents gave me after their trip to Egypt in the mid-1970’s… a cartouche specially made in my name.

    Does that make me bad? Yeah… NO. Pound sand SJW’s!!

  • John C. Randolph says:

    I’ve got to hand it to the young lady in question for standing her ground. Most kids today would have caved to the pressure and apologized to the SJWs.

    The only appropriate response to guilt-peddling of any flavor is to tell the person bitching at you to fuck off.


  • Time was, Americans would respond to something like this “cultural appropriation” BS by saying “mind your own business.” I believe the current vernacular for expressing that sentiment is “**** off,” but either phrase will do the job…for him who has the courage to use it.

  • Wfjag says:

    A girl buys at a consignment store a stunning dress for her HS Prom, showing she has both good taste and good judgment. A guy named Jeremy, who tweets about eating Tacos, complains that she’s engaged in “cultural appropriation.”

    Sod Off, Swampy!

  • Freddie Sykes says:

    I am confused about what you mean by the term “Asian”? Did you dressed your kid up as an Israeli? An Eastern Russian? An Indian ( and I am not referring to the Elizabeth Warren kind )?

    Oh wait: you did say Chinese. I am guessing you did not dress her up as a Tibetan or a native of The Silk Road. Both Asia and China are big places, so please be more specific. I used to use the term Oriental, which according to the dictionary – which absolutely reeks of English Privilege – means a person of East Asian descent, but I hear that they got their obis in an uproar over that term. Maybe we should resort to GPS coordinates so as to avoid confusion?

    PS: my son-in-law is Korean. I am not giving him back, appropriation or not.

  • Micha Elyi says:

    The only objection I have to Miss Daum’s prom dress is its slit that runs rather high up along its side.
    That’s my Dad instinct kicking in.

  • No_que_no says:

    Dr. Peterson weighed in on this last night and told the young woman to ignore the bullies. (We love Dr. Peterson.) A lot of Chinese people have also tweeted their support of her and don’t understand how US people assume they know more about their feelings than they do. It’s astonishing to me what a firestorm this set off, but really, it’s at the heart of the gross stupidity of our lefty educational system. I am embarrassed for my country right now, that there’s anyone here who has the leisure time to troll twitter for clothing crimes, for twitter to promote it to a ‘moment’, for the WaPo to take time to publish an article about it. Stop people, just… stop. The world is watching and they think we’re nuts.

  • Pam says:

    And so “diversity is not our strength”. It can kind of be confusing in that progressive/communist bubble. What does that mean exactly. We are richer being exposed to other cultures as long as all we do is look at them from a distance? These people are absolutely inane and deserve to mercilessly mocked. How about this “your culture is my my prom dress because I’m wearing it in America, the melting pot of culture. And if you don’t like it hop out and leave those Levis behind when you go.” Personaly, I would add an “ass**** on the end just for emphasis.

  • Jim says:

    Imitation is the most sincere form of flattery – or so I thought – but not in the tiny, ignorant and self-centred minds of modern-day [PC] juvenile fascists who do not understand how their behaviour is more and more like that of Ernst Roehm’s Sturmabteilungen [SA or Brown shirts] in the 1930s.

    Here in Australia a current display about the Vikings in a museum has drawn a complaint from a minority group of Australian Aboriginals who did not like the display of Viking bones and found it ”upsetting”, hence that part of the display was closed to public viewing. As far as I know there is no cultural or historical link between ancient Vikings and Australian Aborigines, but it is enough that a few complained so now all may not view the historical display. Far from modern [socialist] PC culture inspiring diversity and mutual respect, it is all about each little sub-group or ‘tribe’ seeking dominance for itself, claiming moral superiority and maximising their claims to being the ‘best’ victims of repression they can imagine.

  • John Ringo says:

    Cultural appropriation… Hmmm… okay…

    No person not of the ‘white European culture’ is allowed:

    Any machine sewn clothing. (Singer invented the sewing machine.)
    Machine produced cloth. (Not sure who to note there but started in Flanders and England.)
    Blue Jeans (covered by all the above but Levi Strauss.)
    Smart phones. (This is tough. They require blue light LED which is Japanese but also require red and green which are European/American…. sigh… guess we’ll have to go back to CT screens only and only for European/American white.)
    Any motorized transportation. (Even horseback is only for Caucasians. (Scythians were Caucasian and domesticated the horse.))
    The electric lightbulb. (Arguments that only the Japanese get blue light LED.)
    Anything electric.

    ‘These are our culture and you don’t get them!’

    Oddly, I’m okay with that. I’m okay with every other culture in the world going back to pre-industrial society. Because we’d still be able to produce their stone and metal tools at a cheaper price than their own societies.

    White people have to give up…

    Peanut Butter. (George Washington Carver. African American genius.)

    Pretty much it. We’ve even got hoop earrings in our archaeological background. So take that ‘woke’ Latinas!

    • GWB says:

      Only disagreement I might have is with “machine produced cloth”, as I believe the Chinese invented automated looms independently. But that’s a quibble.

      What you forgot?
      Liquid-fueled rockets. And, therefore, everything space-related… like satellites. No more weather sats, communication sats, tv sats for you!

  • Indiana Mike says:

    I’m pretty tired of Asians and Africans stealing MY culture. These people ride in cars and airplanes that MY people invented and created. They steal intellectual property on the Computers and networks MY people created. They use electicity technology that MY people created, etc etc. My Culture is NOT your G…damm plaything to be stolen, raped and culturally appropriated…..OK, I admit I did steal gunpowder but that is required to defend my culture from the Asian and African Savages…hahaha

  • Steverino says:

    So, if white American kids catch hell from the idiot Left for dressing in Chinese fashion, do they also denounce those Chinese who wear blue jeans and ball caps? Of, course not, because they’re hypocrites who have found a fun way to bully their neighbors.

    The mixing of cultures is one way knowledge is created. You can’t find anything people anywhere do or say that is not the product of many cultures. The idiot Left wants to stop all that and keep culture in silos, never to mix. They are promoting ignorance.

  • David Jungemann says:

    Dear Mr. Lam and all of your oversensitive ilk:
    No one appropriated your culture. You CAME here and threw your culture into our Vast Melting Pot. It’s part of OUR common culture now, like your jeans and hamburgers.

    No. You can’t get it back. If you insist on it, you might try China…but they’re wearing jeans, too.

  • Tokyov says:

    The tweet by Katana was funny. The dress is Chinese, but Katana is a Japanese word. Which is that idiot culturally appropriating?

    • GWB says:

      He’s “Asian” so it’s all his.
      C’mon! The double standards game is fun to play! And easy too!

  • John says:

    Liberals are just hateful people who will make stuff up to justify their hate. They are the masters of Freudian projection and they project their own hatred and self loathing onto others.

  • jack burton says:

    I am not giving back my Asian wife either. After 44 years she is stuck with me.

  • GulityasCharged says:

    I confess! I wore a Nehru jacket to my high high school prom.

  • SFC D says:

    I am tired of all you non-Irish people appropriating my culture. Henceforth, no person that cannot prove Irish descent (DNA testing will be required) will be permitted to celebrate St. Patrick’s day. No Guinness or Irish whiskey. Enough is enough.

  • The Dude Abides says:

    As if the Chinese people aren’t using iPhones.
    Typical SJW drivel.

  • Bob says:

    If our nation is not a melting pot (which I thought we strived for), then we are a sewer of thousands of unrelated cultures.

  • GWB says:

    I was so very glad to see this girl punch back. But I was disappointed to see her parrot the prog drivel about diversity and such. She has potential, though.

    And, Kim, you and yours just keep right on appropriating. Let’s keep America great!

  • Steve Skubinna says:

    When I was a young sprout, my mother wore tabi socks and zoris, a habit she’d picked up in Taiwan where I was born. I used to wonder why the other moms didn’t wear them as well.

    That must explain why I am such a deplorable. I like Mexican and Chinese food, own two Japanese cars, and enjoy paddling my kayak or canoe. My every waking moment is a hate crime.

    • GWB says:

      I actually COOK Greek food. And Jewish food. And I’m trying my hand at Korean and hopefully Thai.
      It’s not just me appropriating, but I’m forcing my appropriation on others! ZOMG!!!1!!11!

      • Wfjag says:

        Can I come to your house? I’ll even bring my own silverware. I got it from my ex, so it is cutlery ex-appropriated.

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  • Timmy says:

    The dress is Chinese. The person named katana comenting should know that term is Japanese.

    So the person complaining about cultural appropriating is culturally appropriating.

  • Alvinmoop says:

    The whole controversy is silly. “Appropriation” is what cultures DO when they run into each other. It doesn’t take long before it’s difficult to see where one culture begins and another ends: Irish potatoes aren’t native to Ireland, turkeys don’t come from Turkey, and chop suey was invented in San Francisco (maybe). Even the English language that Mr. Lam uses is itself a dog’s breakfast of cultures – Celtic, Roman Latin, Angle, Saxon, Jute, Norman French, Modern Latin, Spanish, and many more. Trying to claim a whole culture for oneself is truly a fool’s errand, and Mr. Lam seems to fit the bill admirably.

  • harleycowboy says:

    Can we claim culture appropriation for every noncitizen wearing denim jeans?

  • Dana says:

    Actually, the biggest problem isn’t the dress, but those totally ugly shoes! 🙂

  • Dana says:

    What shall we say about Jeremy Lam, who, as Asian of some ethnicity, totally appropriated an American first name?

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