Never Lie To A Father Holding A Gun

Never Lie To A Father Holding A Gun

This tragic story out of Texas yesterday was so horrible that it has taken me a while to process how I felt about it.

To sum it up, a man was alerted at about 2:30 am by one of his young children that there was someone in their big sister’s bedroom.  Dad armed himself and confronted a 17 year old male… who was in his 16 year old daughter’s bed.  The daughter claimed she didn’t know who this was.  The father and the young man argued – over what, we don’t know – and when the 17 year old made a motion as if he was “grabbing something,” the father shot and killed him.  The 16 year old later admitted that she had let the 17 year old male into the house and that she knew who he was (there are different reports on whether or not he was her “boyfriend”).  The police later confirmed that the 17 year old was unarmed.

Now, it’s all very comfortable for us to armchair quarterback this horrible story with 20/20 hindsight.  Let us, however, take this story at face value and ask how we would react, given this exact same set of circumstances.  Your child wakes you in the middle of the night.  I hear someone in the house.  I don’t know who this person is.  It sounds like whoever it is, is in Sister’s bedroom.

Given that information alone, any reasonable person would do… what?  This father got his weapon and went to check on his daughter.

You find a young man in your daughter’s bed with her.  You don’t know him.  And what’s more, she says she doesn’t know him.

It’s easy to say with hindsight that she was trying to cover herself and not get into trouble.  It’s easy to look back and say, “Two teenagers in bed together?  Of course – this is what teenagers do!”

This might have been true once upon a time.  Times have changed.  Parents are now constantly barraged with stories of children being snatched out of their own beds (Elizabeth Smart and Polly Klaas) and children kidnapped in broad daylight and then murdered.  There has never been a time when it was “safe” to assume that the unknown intruder was “just” a boyfriend.

As a parent, I can completely understand where the father is coming from.  He has no idea who this intruder is.  When the intruder is confronted, the daughter claims she doesn’t know, either.  There are reports that an argument broke out, and I’m betting it was the 17 year old saying something like, “Yes, you do” and “You let me in.”  The father made a choice of who to believe, and he trusted his daughter.

We know now that that was a mistake.  We know now that her answer to her father was the pivotal moment on which the rest of the events hinged.  Would the father have shot him if she had said, “I snuck my boyfriend in”?  I would say probably not.  But we’ll never know.

As I was relaying a sanitized version of the story to my 10 year old, her eyes widened at the enormity of what one lie had done.  Two families forever broken.  One young man dead.  One father overwhelmed with what he had done (reports are that he was transported to a local hospital with a panic attack after the police arrived).  One 16 year old girl who cost someone their life by lying to save herself from whatever “trouble” she might have been in.

“Never lie to a father holding a gun,” I said to my daughter.

Since this happened in Texas, I find it highly unlikely – if all events transpired as currently reported – that the father, even if indicted by a grand jury, will be convicted of murder, or even manslaughter.  There is more likely to be a huge civil suit, which will probably ruin the family financially.  The 16 year old has three other siblings.  Their lives are now also forever changed because of what she did.  And of course, the 17 year old boy’s family must be devastated.  I can’t even imagine.

This story should be told as a cautionary tale across every high school in America.  And not as a “gun control” story, and not as a “sex” story, but as a morality lesson.  The lesson should be that lies have consequences.  Maybe not a consequence as dramatic as this one, but they exist.  We live in a culture where morals have been left like so much litter on the side of the road.  Everyone would rather “CYA” than confess to screwing up.  Our kids see people in power lie all the time, often without consequence.  Why shouldn’t kids think they can lie boldly and baldly themselves?

The only person who could have stopped the chain of events in its tracks… told a lie.  That lie got a young man killed.

And now, she has to live with the consequences of her lie.

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  • Jodi says:

    I think you’re right, Deanna. I’ve too struggled with my feelings about this tragedy. The lie did it.

    One thing is for sure: I wouldn’t want to be this family this cold March morning. My heart breaks for all involved.

  • Melanie says:

    What a horrible story! I can’t imagine the pain for both families. Lies, disrespect for parents, and loose morals definitely have consequences.

  • GWB says:

    Almost makes the story of the girl who moved out then sued her parents seem … fairy tale-like. At least noone died in that story (allowing reconciliation). 🙁

    I really hope there wasn’t more at play here. I’m suppressing my inner cynic.

  • Gary says:

    I cannot believe that the teens had the nerve to try this in her home, It is totally stupid. And then to tell her father she did not know who the guy was when her father was already stressed out was mistake number 2 I feel for both family’s as I have a baby girl 9 and a 7 year old boy.
    I do know as a young boy / Man I would of never of had the pure gall to of tried this My the creator watch after both family’s

  • Lucy says:

    I’m flabbergasted that the girl was foolish enough to try this stunt in the first place. She had to have known that her father was very protective, that he owned guns and knew how to use them, and that he trusted her. Assuming she saw that he was holding a gun when he caught her and the boy in flagrante delicto, I have to conclude that she just wasn’t very bright. Why was she not screaming “Don’t shoot, Daddy!” instead of trying to make it appear as if she were being raped?

    Obviously, there are a lot of facts we don’t know, and may never know; but based on what we do know, I’m inclined to blame the girl for the incident. She was enough of an idiot to let the boy in in the first place, and enough of an idiot to get him killed for doing what comes naturally to a teenage boy when he has a willing accomplice… although I’m also inclined to think he was a fool for taking her up on her offer in her own bedroom with her younger siblings and her very protective parents sleeping nearby. Surely they could have found another venue for their shenanigans.

  • Deebow says:

    As the dad who might be entering that room in the middle of the night, I can only imagine the emotions that were going through his mind and heart.

    But the lie did it. He based his decision to shoot based upon what his daughter told him, and that is what set this horrible chain of events in motion.

  • Roy says:

    Every parent’s nightmare is that their children might make this kind of very bad choice before we can shepherd them to adulthood.

    Poor choices and lies, all the things we practically beg them to avoid.

  • Robert says:

    Since the event was in Texas, the daughter should have known that the Dad WOULD protect his family, and he did. In the liberal states, where there is no respect taught or enforced, the only thing that would happen is that the Dad would end up paying for the “grandchild” the rest of his life since liberals despises Dads. In the God Worshiping South, we do expect the Dad to protect the family, with extreme prejudice. At this point, the daughter which lied and caused the boyfriend to get shot, should spend time as an adult in parchment being charged with manslaughter.

  • Merle says:

    I hope this doesn’t just fade away and the whole story comes out.


  • Xavier says:

    I’m going to wade into the cesspool and see how the leftists are rewriting this to promote gun control. I’ll report back later – no point in all of us losing IQ points by being exposed to concentrated progressivism.

    God help these families.

  • Jen says: guess is this man will be charged with at least manslaughter. Finding someone in bed with your daughter…depends on what she said. If she started screaming for help, etc. that is one thing. If she simply said something stupid such as I don’t know him, and he had no reason to fear for his own or her visible gun, etc. then shooting him was not justifiable under any self defense law I am aware of.
    Before anyone thinks I am some leftist anti gunner, please be aware that I am very pro 2A, lifetime NRA member, and a CCW holder. I also have spent a good deal of effort educating myself on my state’s self defense laws, etc. as well as those states where I might also be carrying.
    This will all depend on what exactly was said and whether the guy appeared to have any kind of weapon, etc. If he made no threat, this father is going to be in deep.

  • Robert What? says:

    Being a gun owner myself, and seeing a 17 year old kid, even in such a compromising position, I can’t understand why the father at least didn’t warn the guy he was going to shoot if he so mulched as breathed. Or at least shoot to wound instead of to kill. Although of course I don’t know what went on in the room. No question, though, this is a tragedy that nightmares are made of.

  • Live near the shooting says:

    The father won’t be charged. That’s a certainty.

    I understand the tragic element here, but prefer to look on the “bright” side. This young man’s life and early death can have value …. as an object lesson. Don’t sneak into people’s houses while they’re sleeping!

    BTW this shooting occurred during spring break in this district.

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