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Alabama governor, Kay Ivey signed into law the Alabama Human Life Protection Act today. All the while, Hollywood is protesting doing business in Georgia and actresses are calling their abortions the “best decision ever made“. The pro-abortion crowd is taking to Twitter to “shout” their abortions.
Many women choose to remain silent about their abortions. This is not because they feel shame or feel they will be regarded in a negative light. Most often, they feel the pain of the loss of a life. They feel guilt. They wrestle with their moral compass and question their decision that determined the fate of another human being. Not the #ShoutYourAbortion crowd. They’re telling stories. They’re flexing. They’re proud. They’ve done it once. And some will do it again. And again.
And again, so it seems…
I am 21 years old, graduating college in a year, and have been in a 3 year relationship with my boyfriend. We both have a bright future ahead in business careers and plenty left to do in our lives. I got pregnant.
I had my abortion yesterday at 6wks 3 days. Yes, it sucked. Anxiety, nerves, every emotion possible I experienced while being in that clinic for both appointments. I decided the surgical over medical. It hurt like hell for a matter of 10-15 minutes, and then it was over. I felt empowered, I had my body back, and I had the CHOICE on my future.”-Anonymous, 21, graduating in college in a year, and my abortion was not a big deal
A bright future ahead. So unfortunate that such a luminous future was darkened by a child. Moving along.
Mine is a Tindr story from Hell.
He was recently separated from his wife, though he didn’t tell me it was because he was a philandering POS. We had unprotected sex ONCE when I thought I was on the pill.
I was too afraid to tell him I was pregnant so I asked that he pay me back from money I lent him for surgery to have an ovarian cyst removed. He dragged his feet and eventually ghosted me; if I could post his name, I would.
The National Abortion Fund/Foundation provided $200, a Facebook friend donated $100, my mother reluctantly paid me $100 to trim the hedges because she couldn’t live with paying directly to have a potential grandchild flushed.”
She thought she was on the pill. A potential grandchild flushed?! What are we talking about? A goldfish? Whatever happened to the “thing” being a “clump of cells”?
I’m 37 and have been happily married to a wonderful man for 12 years. We live a good life; no significant difficulties, no traumas, no extremely sad stories. Everything ok. For the last 8 years we didn’t use any method for birth control other than me looking at a calendar and it worked, and I actually thought that one of us was sterile. And of course we talked many times about whether we did or didn’t want to have children, and the answer was always the same: no, we definitely don’t want babies.”
The calendar method? Seriously? Then, there’s always the opportunity to learn something new:
I don’t feel bad or sad about my bobos….”
In case you are wondering, a “bobo” is short for abortion. By “bobos”, it means, she’s had more than one. I perused some of the titles of the rest of the stories:
8 pregnancies. 3 children. 5 abortions. No regrets.
I Chose Life, My Own.
Gonna have my 3rd Abortion.
I Did it Twice and I will Never Regret It.”
I read more stories. Some women were abused or raped. These were not the stories that were of concern to me. I do not agree with abortion but I do sympathize with these women. The stories I found curious were much more common. These were the ones in which women are pouring out their hearts, all while talking about irresponsible birth control methods they somehow thought would work. These stories were coming from women who are 1) old enough to know better and/or 2) educated enough to know better. A common theme here is women who were driven by their studies and their careers. There’s an air of superiority in this crowd-a certain sense of “this is my life and I am not quite ready for this because I have big things ahead of me”. I would guess some of these women are quite smart and pride themselves on being part of the educated masses. But really, where in the hell is their common sense? If one birth control pill makes you sick, you try another method. If an IUD fails the first time, you try other options because maybe, the IUD is not for you. If you do not ever plan to have children, surgically, that can be taken care of on your side or on his side! And, really, who relies on the calendar or the pull-out methods anymore?! And, ladies-here’s a word of advice-if the guy is that much of a slacker-dirtbag-loser, what in the world are you doing sleeping with him in the first place? If he’s an irresistible slacker-dirtbag-loser you met on Tindr perhaps you should considering doubling, tripling or even quadrupling up on your birth control methods before considering a trip down to Planned Parenthood! Just saying.
Two, three, four, five (count ’em up) abortions. Forgive me but I really do not have much sympathy here. How is this okay? How is it that this can be a choice one is proud of? This is not “healthcare”. This is simply irresponsible behavior. Abortion is not an “empowered” decision if all other decisions leading up to this are stupid. Here’s an idea for all of the women who have paid Planned Parenthood multiple visits for their “bobos”: listen to that dim-witted Hollywood actress and please, for the love of God, GO on that sex strike!
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Scott says: Skanks who are happy about killing multiple babies because they have the responsibility and morals of your average alley cat.. There is a special place in hell for trash like this!
As the parent of an extreme premie / special needs child, I have no sympathy, or quite honestly, even understanding on how a human can be so callous…
Lisa Carr says: Scott-my son was also a preemie. Three pounds. Little feet fit into the palm of my hand. He had some delays but is great now and a normal, 13 year-old. He came 6 weeks early. Do not know how early your child was but hats off to you. For the most part, my tiny baby was healthy and breathing on his own the moment he was delivered. I get it. As a parent, when you go into that NICU and see babies holding on for dear life, parents exiting those doors crying because they had hope their tiny life would hold on or even talk to some parents who only have the day-by-day sitting by their child who is covered in wires and tubes fighting for their lives…yeah…you tend to lose sympathy. I remember one family who had a 24-week preemie. They couldn’t hold her. The father was so overjoyed when he just got to TOUCH her little hand and caress her head for just a moment.
Scott says: Ours was 27 1/2 weeks, 1 lb, 13oz, spent 100 days in the hospital, and for the first 30, they wouldn’t give us odds on him surviving… he’s 21 now (him making it that far back was very rare), and is doing well, but has issues that will follow him for life.. and yeah, just touching his hand was special for a long time… NICU nurses got used to some weird firefighter knocking on the door at all hours (every time we transported to that hospital).. I was determined to spend as much time with him as possible, if that was all I was going to have with him….
GWB says: I had the CHOICE on my future
You MADE your choice before the child was conceived. Why should you get to kill that child to get a do-over on that CHOICE?
We had unprotected sex ONCE
Welcome to the world of intended consequences. See, sex is not *primarily* for pleasure. It’s for procreation. And, as Dr Malcolm (Jurassic Park) says, “Life will find a way.” **
when I thought I was on the pill.
And your attempt to negate your carelessness cost a baby his life.
a potential grandchild flushed
FIFY.
no, we definitely don’t want babies
Then you definitely wanted to use a method other than the rhythm method. Again, “Life will find a way.” (You used it for 8 years?! You had a lot of accumulated risk there!)
I don’t feel bad or sad about my bobos….
You’re lying or a psychopath. Or, perhaps, you’ve been so indoctrinated that you’re ignorant of what you’ve truly done.
These stories were coming from women who are 1) old enough to know better and/or 2) educated enough to know better.
But they didn’t. Why not? Because they had all been indoctrinated to believe birth control is perfect and the thought of pregnancy should never slow them down when they feel the urge. And their instructors were most likely forbidden to explain that the only perfect method of birth control (as Alyssa Milano just figured out!) is to keep your legs together.
A common theme here is women who were driven by their studies and their careers.
And there’s the flip side of the indoctrination they’ve received: the idea that kids are obstacles and burdens (alternately, that they are fashion accessories), and that a woman has to achieve just like a man does.
Forgive me but I really do not have much sympathy here.
I have pity. Because they’ve been deluded. They’ve been sold a bill of goods. If our society weren’t so warped by this, these women would be suing their sex education teachers (along with Cosmo and Vogue) for fraud.
(** BTW, I think my favorite Dr Malcolm quote also applies here: “Oooh! Ahhh! That’s how it always starts. Then later there’s running and screaming.”)
(OK, one more that fits…. “The lack of humility before nature that’s being displayed here staggers me.” Because that movie is all about man’s hubris – just like abortion.)
Lisa Carr says: As always, GWB-excellent points. They don’t hear or want to hear the stories of how women’s lives have been IMPROVED by their child. I, for one, know that I am a better person because of my son. There is NEVER a “perfect” time to have a baby, IMO. But, that time can be somewhat controlled by appropriate forms of birth control or-(gasp)-abstinence! If, for instance, you know you’re fertile as all get-out and a single mom who cannot afford to get pregnant again by some guy who you know will “ghost you” if you ever got knocked-up…perhaps (for your own well-being and your existing kids’ well-being), refraining from a roll in the hay is in order. If “needs” must be met-then, for crying out loud, be smart! This also begs the question-if you know the guy is no-good and on drugs, has no job, is going to “ghost” you-WHY are you sleeping with him?! And if you have kids…honey-it’s time to GROW the —– up! Abortion is not an empowered decision if all other decisions in your life are crap.
Elizabeth Allen says: I agree with you on almost all points except for the calendar method. While you do need to pay closer attention to your cycle than just looking at the calendar, fertility-awareness based methods of family planning are highly effective when used correctly. Best of all, they’re free and don’t mess with your hormones in a way that could set you up for gynecological cancers later down the road. It does require you to take the chill out of Netflix and Chill for a week each month, so there’s the catch.
GWB says: They can work. But working for 8 years is accumulating risk. And they’re really only for someone who can accept that risk. If you absolutely can’t afford kids, then you need to practice an even better method.
Jiim says: ”I felt empowered, I had my body back, and I had the CHOICE on my future.”-Anonymous, 21,”
So this self-indulgent fool did not have a CHOICE before she engaged in mating behaviour without precautions? Her statement also implies that the undesired foetus, that conniving, selfish, evil little cluster of cells, actively denied her Right to CHOOSE. That also implies that that that self-same foetus was a functioning person, albeit immature. Hence she killed a human being; her child.
Cameron says: I had my body back, and I had the CHOICE on my future.
You had a choice earlier and it caused a pregnancy. Why didn’t you avoid that choice if it was going to inconvenience you so much?
I was too afraid to tell him I was pregnant so I asked that he pay me back from money I lent him for surgery to have an ovarian cyst removed.
Honestly, that sentence read like she loaned him money so he could have an ovarian cyst removed.
if I could post his name, I would.”
Why can’t she? Did she not get his name or is she afraid of legal action?
I don’t feel bad or sad about my bobos….”
Am I the only person who gritted his teeth in irritation at learning about a slang term for abortion?
GWB says: Why didn’t you avoid that choice if it was going to inconvenience you so much?
Because it felt sooooo good. And she hasn’t been taught to use restraint – just to indulge her desires. And that she shouldn’t have to ever suffer the consequences for those indulgences.
that sentence read
Yes, I had to read it a few times to figure out what she meant.
Am I the only person…
No, you’re not.
Jim says: ”… if I could post his name, I would.”
So she, a consenting female adult of breeding age, could publicly blame him for ”servicing” her – effectively as it turned out as she became pregnant? No where is there a hint of personal responsibility in this self-centred young bint.
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