More Fathers, Not Fewer Guns Are a Better “Solution”

More Fathers, Not Fewer Guns Are a Better “Solution”

More Fathers, Not Fewer Guns Are a Better “Solution”

The school shooting at Uvalde is just the latest reminder that evil is real and is everywhere. I also know that all the mass school-shootings that are being trotted out right now by politicians don’t really address the solutions we all want.  We want our children to go to school and come back safely.  Yet it’s not a black and white issue.  We want it to be, but it’s not.  There are so many facets from which to view this Rubik’s Cube and we only want to talk about two.  Guns and mental health.  What I know for certain is that shoveling all the guns away will not solve this problem.  As a nation, we must find a way to get more fathers, not fewer guns into our households if we are to find a better solution, such as it might be.

My Emotional Connection:

This post has been mulling around my head for a few days now.  All the talking heads are pundit-ing away from every which angle they can.  Instead, I made a phone call to my oldest friend.  All three of her children were in Sandy Hook Elementary School in 2012.  She was vacationing half a world away in Australia.  She was forced to deal with her mind-numbing fear while trapped in an airport watching her real-life horror story play out over the news.  Needless to say, her whole family was altered that day. 

We haven’t spoken about some of the obvious things, like gun control.  I think I am too afraid to have a debate with her, even if I know the stats are on my side.  What I do know is that she has traded a very lucrative career in the brand-name marketing world to become a trauma therapist and is getting her PHD to do so as I write. 

Shooter’s Father Speaks Up:

As I read the Daily Beast article, detailing their interview with the Texas school shooter’s father, it’s not hard to see why this poor 18-year-old kid turned out the way he did.  I do feel sorry for him.  I feel sorry for everyone in this story.  But the shooter’s father had a litany of excuses as to why he hadn’t seen his son over the last couple of years:

“His father admitted he had not spent much time with him lately because he was employed outside Uvalde—he digs holes around utility poles for inspection—and because of the pandemic.

His own mother was suffering from cancer, Ramos said, and he could not risk being exposed to the coronavirus. He added that his son grew frustrated with the COVID precautions about a month ago and refused to speak to him. Ramos has not seen him since.”

So yeah, he might have had to drive a bit to see his son, but that was hard…  and masks.  F’ing masks.

Here is just another reminder that our COVID policies did more damage than good, and we will all have to live with that reality.

He then admits that the boy didn’t feel his father loved him.  You know who doesn’t feel that way?  Sons who are loved by their fathers.  Even those sons who are angry at rules and boundaries know deep down it’s because they are loved.  I know because I “hated” my own parents at that age.  

Missing Fathers:

We have devalued fathers and marriage badly over the last sixty years or so.  So, our boys especially are left to displace their rage in horrific ways.  Then we scream at the sky TO MAKE THE KILLINGS STOP! without addressing the ways to do so.  

 And we still ignore the fact that 75% of school shooters are from fatherless homes!  This article was written in 2018 after the Parkland Florida shooting:

“Consider a joint federal study showing that 63 percent of youth suicides are from fatherless homes; as often as not, mass shooters are simultaneously suicidal. Robert Sampson, a Harvard sociologist, has observed that urban violence is concentrated in neighborhoods with mostly single-parent homes.

A Michigan State University study found 75 percent of examined adolescent murderers were from fatherless homes. The Centers for Disease Control says 85 percent of children with behavioral disorders have only a mother in the home. Wilcox also says children with both married parents around are less likely to drop out of school, to become drug addicts or to grow up impoverished.”

Sen. Mike Lee (R-Utah) has some of the same questions I do.  From the Washington Examiner on Thursday:

“Questions involving things like, why is our culture suddenly producing so many young men who want to murder innocent people?” continued the Utah Republican. “It raises questions like, you know, could things like fatherlessness, the breakdown of families, isolation from civil society or the glorification of violence be contributing factors?”

 Gun Control:

The left wants to take away the guns, as if that will be the magic panacea to remove all evil.  But even countries that have tried this simplistic answer have higher per capital mass shootings than the U.S.

Evil exists.  With or without Guns:

Taking away guns or legislating them to uselessness will not undue evil.  I could litter this post with links of mass stabbing in Europe and Asia.  Evil has no boundaries.  Just the other day, a crazy man took a car to run over school children:


Look, we all want to make the killing stop.  We are losing our children to gun violence every day.  But school shootings are just the tiniest of pieces to the problem.  We hand wave away the dead children in urban violence that racks up death tolls in the thousands by now.  Mass school shooting deaths can’t even compare in sheer numbers.  But our politicians, of all stripes, like to use them to their political advantage.  It’s sick really.  But until we talk openly about how to rebuild families, faith, and fatherhood into our communities, we will just keep screaming at the sky with no answers.  

Featured Image: “father and son” by disgustipado is licensed under CC BY-NC-SA 2.0, modified

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  • Cameron says:

    Teach boys that they are nothing more than defective girls.
    Make up phrases like “toxic masculinity.”
    Treat men as nothing more than sperm donors who aren’t as important as strong independent WAMENZ.
    Disregard traditional families.
    Then wail when tragedies happen and blame the wrong thing.

    We need a serious course correction in this country.

    • Windy Wilson says:

      Sperm-donating ATMs whose living standards count for nothing when it comes to calculating child support.

  • AF JAG retired says:

    There are reports that the father had served jail time himself on a couple of occasions, and had a conviction for violence against an unspecified family member. In this case, maybe having him around the kid more wouldn’t have done much good.

  • GWB says:

    Rubrik’s Cube
    Heh. Your auto-correct has a funny sense of humor.

    We have devalued fathers and marriage badly over the last sixty years or so.
    And morals. Not to detract from your post, but the morals are part of this package. Progressives have spent decades tearing down anything that might hinder them in the slightest when it comes to personal pleasure or gratification. Fathers were part of that, as were morals, intact families, marriage, particular religions, etc.

    75 percent of examined adolescent murderers were from fatherless homes
    And this is why I bring up the morals. Because I can see the gears turning in some heads, where they’re thinking, “Well, if we get a male in the household, then problem solved!” But it doesn’t work that way. Not only does the relationship have to be there, but the father has to not be a deadbeat or an abuser. He has to be a real father in substance if not in name.

    Mass school shooting deaths can’t even compare in sheer numbers.
    But it’s important to understand why they cause such fear and consternation. It’s the supposed randomness of the act. Maybe not in motive, but in location and victims.
    We (rhetorically) don’t mind those black kids getting killed in Chicago because we don’t live in ‘those sorts’ of neighborhoods. We don’t worry as much about convenience store clerks getting shot, beaten or just robbed because that normally happens in ‘those parts’ of town. IOW, we can act to mitigate the impact of actual crime on our lives (if we’re not those who are just stuck with it because of their economics or culture) by where we live and where we work and where we travel. Then this sort of thing happens in the ‘normal’ streets of Las Vegas or a school or a shopping mall and people fear.

    • Windy Wilson says:

      The randomness is the key. This is why people always say that such things don’t happen in their neighborhoods. The perceived distance (real or imagined) is a protection. In my city two children were murdered by a home invader in 1976 or 1977, and you would think from the reactions of people that they were the first children murdered in my city. Murders of non-gang member children happened fairly regularly not two miles from where these children were murdered, but somehow the cost of the housing was supposed to be a protection.

      • Scott says:

        The thing is, people always say these things are “random”, but the facts show that’s not the case at all. Mass shootings almost ALWAYS happen in “gun free zones” these cowardly scum know that they will be unopposed in such areas, especially when the initial police response is next to worthless, as it was in both Parkland and Uvalde. One of the biggest and easiest things we could do to lessen these events would be to immediately do away with such zones. After that, Cameron is spot on that one of the biggest issues is fatherless young men, along with as GWB points out, the near-total decline of morals in this country (due to intentional attack by the left)

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  • Ralph Robert Jaeger says:

    Don Boys asks a very pertinent question. How did a high school drop out get the $5000.00 to buy two rifles?

    • Windy Wilson says:

      Or even $2,000. We don’t know the scum bought National Match quality rifles. After all, he seems to have used them at arms-length distances, so what high-priced precision was necessary?
      A cheap-ass rifle would have been sufficient for his evil goals.

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