Hillbilly Gratitude on Thanksgiving

Hillbilly Gratitude on Thanksgiving

Hillbilly Gratitude on Thanksgiving

Hillbilly Elegy by J.D. Vance has been controversial since the book came out. Now, it’s a Netflix movie and the controversy is back again. While I grew up in the same Ohio area and my people came from the same Kentucky area, my story is utterly different from Vance’s. On this Thanksgiving, I would like to express my gratitude to my people and tell you about them.

The book was controversial because of it’s depiction of Appalachian Americans as drug-addled, uneducated and incapable of making good choices. While I recognize that vast swaths of Appalachia have been completely devastated by drugs, alcohol and ignorance, it is not a universal truth. To give you a flavor of Hillbilly Elegy, here is the trailer:

Glenn Close has become an absolute caricature of herself. And, they could not pay me enough to watch this movie.

My people come from Hazard in Perry County, Kentucky. My Dad, Al Holt, was born on the sofa in the dog trot house on Hemlock Street, just as his mother, Hazel Cox Holt, had been. My great-grandmother, Polly Stamper Cox known as Big Mom, came to Hazard as the third wife of Big Dad, Samuel Cox. His first wife died and the second didn’t care for mountain life.

In the featured photo, that is Big Mom with me on the right, a cousin on the left, and above us a photo of my Dad in his Marine dress blues. Speaking of my Marine Dad, one story I remember was about a family reunion. My Dad got leave and hitchhiked up to Hazard from Cherry Point, NC. He got there late. Everyone had gone home. Big Mom got up and killed and dressed a chicken. There is a picture, that I do not possess, of my Dad, in his Marine khakis, surrounded by fried chicken and all the fixings.

My Dad grew up in the Over-the Rhine section of Cincinnati, where Memow and Papaw, Hazel and Travis Holt, had gone to look for work. Like I said, my story outline is similar to that of J.D. Vance. I suppose we were lower middle class, but I thought we were rich. I suppose my Hazard family was poor, but to me, they were rich.

The back end of the dog trot house got closed in when a half bath of indoor plumbing was added. I remember where the outhouse was located, to the back and right of the house. I remember the water pump on the back porch. I also remember the perpetual smell of dampness in the house. The house backed up to a fork of the Kentucky River and flooded almost every year. Also, the dead relations pictures on the walls with their scary eyes.

But what I remember most was love. I remember picking chick peas, and snapping beans. I remember running on the dirt roads with a bunch of cousins to wave at the freight trains filled with coal.Hazard is a coal town. My Great Uncles, Athol and A.J. Cox, had the Black Lung. I remember them sitting on the front porch and smoking and coughing.

Since Big Mom didn’t have a bathtub, some days she would light the coal fired furnace and sit a big tub over the grate. She would fill it with water by bucket and by night the water would be warm. The girl cousins would get in and wash up and then the boys would take their turn.

At the end of a couple weeks, Memow and Papaw would come down from Cincinnati to retrieve my sister, brother, cousin Suzanne and I. I never wanted to leave, but my school and dance classes were all in Cincinnati. And, after all, Memow and Papaw had gone North for a better life, right?

I also remember exactly what I was doing when I heard Big Mom had died. I was in the F-85 Oldsmobile that my Dad drove. I was 15 years old. He was driving me to a Master Class taught by Prima Ballerina, Dame Alicia Markova. My Dad told me that Big Mom had gone in for gall bladder surgery and had died at age 82.

Can you believe that? From uneducated in Hazard, Kentucky to going to a class taught by one of the greatest dancers of her age in three generations.

J.D. Vance has his story of Appalachia and I have mine. Big Mom never allowed alcohol to cross her threshold. She was not educated, but she was whip smart. She was a tough old lady who could kill and dress a chicken and then sit down and crochet.

I am not a hillbilly. But, I love hillbillies. Because of those people, I feel at home wherever I go. I am eternally grateful to those hillbillies. I reflect on them this Thanksgiving because they made me who I am.

Featured Image: Courtesy of Cox/Holt Families/All Rights Reserved

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  • AD of the Hinterlands says:

    “Night Comes to the Cumberlands” by Caudill is an excellent summary of the history in coal country.
    Happy Turkey Day, ladies.

  • “…drug-addled, uneducated and incapable of making good choices.”

    You find the same in the urban ghettos. You find the same in Martha’s Vineyard (Hunter Biden, anyone?). Many “hillbillies” – or “slum dwellers” have a better idea of how the world actually works than most MBAs I have met.

    I didn’t grow up in the hills of Appalachia, but in the mountains of Arizona. The people in my copper mining town were much the same. Most of them quite wonderful, some damaged, some downright evil. That is the world.

    • Cameron says:

      “You find the same in the urban ghettos.”

      Yep. Now try making a documentary about that. Your studio will get burned down faster than you can scream “Say her name.”

  • Citizen Tom says:

    Kind of strange that the people who are most drug-addled, uneducated and incapable of making good choices are areas that have been run by Democrats for decades. Yet Democrats are favored by the Hollywood elites.

    The arrogant in Hollywood think they can use government to perfect us. Unfortunately, they cannot figure out how to keep government from robbing us. To thoe who idolize government, it is all about making the system work, selecting the right guy — right demi-god — who can make the system work. That guy can make the mass of humanity, those other people, think right, put away their guns and Bibles, and worship the pleasure of sex, their stuff, scientific experts, the power of the state, and their glorious selves.

    Too many miss this truth. “There But For the Grace of God, Go I” (from => https://quoteinvestigator.com/2014/07/06/grace/). Except for the grace of God, not one of would be saved from damnation. God doesn’t need us. Except for the grace of God, we would not even do well in far smaller matters. Not one of us would even achieve what the world calls success. Instead? If God had no use for us we would be better off if we had never existed.

    Hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving Day. We all have much to be thankful for.

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  • GWB says:

    My people come from Hazard in Perry County
    Did you know the Dukes?!

    A nice tale you tell, Toni. It’s the story of the America I was taught. Keep telling it.

  • Alle says:

    I ain’t happy really until I’m quite near mountains or hills. Both my hub’s and my people are from West Virginia. Most hill people are nice, especially the southerners. And the food! My God, that is real nutrition born from gardens and canned jars and recipes from way back. Anybody ever eat pickled corn?

  • Aggie Lu says:

    Yes! Please keep telling your stories. We are all sick to death of hearing about how idiotic and ignorant average Americans are, and sick to death also of the immoral trash being held up as role models by the so-called intelligent elites!

  • Critcas says:

    Heck, we were practically neighbors…

    I moved to the town Vance described in the mid-1980s. The local steel company had just moved its headquarters out of town and gutted the town just after the early ’80’s recession receded. We moved out 15 years later when our oldest was ready to transition to Middle School. That school had 3 tribes: middle-class, poor blacks, and poor whites. It was not entirely racial, since the middle-class contingent included the kids of foreign born managers and engineers at the steel company, and the town was a bedroom community for both Dayton and Cincinnati. It was three distinct cultures, making for a disruptive atmosphere. The high school was said to be even worse.

    The parochialism of the town cannot be overstated. The town had a small mall on the east side; there were larger malls 20 minutes north in Dayton and 25 minutes south in Cincinnati. People spoke of a trip to the local mall as if describing an expedition, and the other malls were a once or twice a year excursion.

    I’m glad your experience was different. I knew town residents just like the people described in the book. Culture makes a difference.

  • […] is deep in my heart. I spent part of every summer at Big Mom’s house on Hemlock Street. Big Mom was my paternal great-grandmother. She, along with Big Dad, my grandparents Hazel and Albert Travis […]

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