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If you are of a certain age, you cannot read “Looking for love” and not think “Wooking pa Nub”. Well, we got that out of the way. Boss Girls have big problems. They are taking to TikTok to vent their privileged spleens. I don’t mean “White Privilege”. I mean “Civilized Western World, 21st Century Privilege”. They have it all, but they can’t find love. Have they tried watching Harrison Butker’s speech?
“A Man is Not a Plan: Success Strategies for Independent Women” was famously bleated by Fani Willis on the witness stand, but is actually a book by Mary Grace Musuneggi. The teaser on Amazon reads:
If You Are a Woman Who Wants to Live Life to Its Fullest, this Book Is for You. At the age of 25, as a widow with a nine-month old son, Mary Grace Musuneggi became keenly aware that Cinderella was a fairy tale and that her salary as a parochial school teacher would never be enough to realize her goal of owning a home. Mary Grace decided to take charge of her own situation and carve out the abundant life she wanted for herself and her son. The story of her journey to become the first female agent in an insurance firm, to that firm’s first female financial planner, to Chairman and CEO of her own successful firm is filled with anecdotes, humor, and practical advice. In her role as a financial planner, Mary Grace meets women of all ages who rely on a man as a financial plan with disastrous results. But you won’t find detailed instructions about how to make a budget here because this book is about more than money. It is about finding the courage to be CEO of your own life, whether a man is in your life or not.
You can all be Boss Girls. Doesn’t that just sound exhausting? No wonder these Boss Girls are opening a vein on TikTok. Yes, Cinderella was a fairy tale. That’s why the story ended at “And, they lived happily ever after”. Royal life is hard work, albeit there is less chance of losing your head than in the past. Still, finding Prince Charming is grueling. Good thing we are not princesses.
From Not the Bee:
This problem is everywhere, and women are less satisfied with their lives than ever. Yes, Disney feminism set the stage. Yes, the erosion of marriage and traditional roles actually enslaved people to time and possessions (and left them lonely to boot) instead of liberating them. Yes, putting self above God led to despair instead of happiness.
Less satisfied like this:
Why are so many 29 yr old boss girls from Tiktok having public meltdowns about failing to find a man? pic.twitter.com/MaXY1yLKZG
— Richard Cooper (@Rich_Cooper) May 17, 2024
She wants love in her life so badly, but it’s just about her. I know. I was her for a short time. All MY friends had moved on from ME. Looking back, I don’t blame them. It was all about ME and my Boss Girl self. I thought I was soooooo special. I was so banal. Then, things got super, super busy. I was so exhausted. I was dragging my sorry tail. But I am a Southerner so I tried to smile and be polite to everyone that helped shake me out of my Boss Girls phase. Like this girl was thirsting for this before she went into the comedy show.
I don’t know that this lady passed anyone by, maybe none of the men she has met, at 33, has been right for her. On the other hand, you just know she was shooting lasers out of her eyes the whole comedy show.
33 yr old woman, that's been single for 7 yrs crying about being single.
Why are women doing this and how many guys did she pass on to get to this point? pic.twitter.com/dKj7da1G9G
— Richard Cooper (@Rich_Cooper) May 20, 2024
More from the Bee article:
If you want love, you must understand what love is. Love involves sacrifice – putting aside your own ambitions and desires for another person, even if the personal cost is great. Love puts aside personal feelings for the truth. Love protects someone even if that means getting hurt yourself. Love endures through the hardest seasons, even when you are getting less out of a relationship than you are putting in.
We are not talking about abuse and addiction here. Never acceptable. Love means often saying sorry and negotiating for everything. Love means taking chances and getting hurt.
Maybe watch what Harrison Butker said without your ego:
“Suffering in this life is only temporary.” Smile.
Featured Image: Kari Nousiainen/Pompeo Batoni/flickr.com/cropped/Creative Commons
GWB says: Yes, putting self above God led to despair instead of happiness.
Also could be worded, “Putting your self above the Order of Creation leads to despair.”
Having said that, part of the current Order of Creation are the curses received for the Sin in the Garden. So, defying the OoC involves denying god’s instructions about forming families and having kids AND the part (for women) about submitting to the Man.
If you want love, you must understand what love is.
One thing love is, is NOT thinking “This is person is exactly what I need.” There is an element of (with romantic love) “This is the one that fits with me.” But if your thoughts are all about what you get out of the relationship, it ain’t love – godly or romantic.
Maybe watch what Harrison Butker said without your ego:
Amen. Listen without rebelling against what he’s saying. Then ponder if what he’s saying actually supports good or bad long-term outcomes.
NTSOG says: “I’ve been trying to meet someone worth MY TIME.” said the sheila in the second video.
I wonder if she has ever considered that she might not be worth the effort for many blokes who don’t want a princess and/or drama queen who believes she is super special?
GWB says: Or said another way, “Make yourself worth their time.”
MarineVet says: The men these women want are men who have easy access to higher quality lower maintenance women by the boatload, they are not interested in these women in the least, certainly not as wives. They are Walmart-quality dime-a-dozen candies setting their value as if they were one-of-a-kind works of art and telling perfectly good men they do not measure up ending any potential suitors advances before they ever make the first move.
Now, there is nothing wrong with walmart quality, it serves a purpose and is perfectly fine for the vast majority of people. I shop there often enough. But I do not pay the prices of a high-end store that has higher quality items for offer that might be more appealing to someone making 50% or more money than I do for the walmart quality items. Walmart quality sells at Walmart prices. Dillard’s quality sells at Dillard’s prices, Joes jewelry sells at Joes quality prices and Tiffany’s sells at Tiffany’s rarity prices.
Attractiveness is personal and individualized. I think my wife is certainly a 10, most men would consider her an 8 in all likelihood due to her short stature. She looks amazing in any outfit she wears, she wears no makeup and looks amazing, she is the center of attention everywhere she goes with nearly every group type, she is athletic, energetic, and picks up nearly anything almost immediately. She is certainly a 10 in my book and many people see her as a leader and defer to her it is really unreal, even to her. Oh, and she is modest despite all this.
I do not know why they always pick me. I do not think I am that good, why am I always the one they pick to demonstrate. I am not even a black belt, but they pick me over the black belts. Martial arts, dance, volley ball, tennis, parties, friendships… She is always the top of the food chain regardless of what she wants, which is usually to just blend in and not be stared at.
These women that think they are girl bosses? They are the exact opposite. They are run of the mill attention seekers demanding to be viewed as exceptional by everyone and trying to force themselves down people’s throats like a transgender ‘woman’ at a swim meet. It just leaves a bad taste in the mouths of anyone that matters. It might be attractive to the beta males who these women despise and deride perpetually, so they get lots of viewers, but the men these women want to attract are simply smarter and more socially aware than that and are not easily manipulated into a relationship.
There, my long winded answer as to why these women are alone, and alone for good reason.
There is a reason these whiny women are single. It’s all about them. Me, me, me. What they want, nothing about what they could offer someone else. Parents must be so proud to have raised such self absorbed cry babies. Get some cats ladies.
GWB says: BTW, interesting choice on illustrations. Diana taking away Cupid’s bow so he must rest. Good art.
Toni Williams says: I am so glad someone got it.
GWB says: I liked it and went and looked it up. 🙂
Jeff A. says: Few terms irk me more than “Alpha Female”.
Alphas only exist in the abstract to begin with. The term basically describes an individual who has the most and highest opportunities to mate with the opposite sex, I.E., the most desirable.
Every self-described “Alpha Female” is dead wrong. They’re possessive of traits that describe Alpha MALES…dominant, wealthy, etc.
Example of a true Alpha female? 19-year old Anna Kournikova. Nuff said.
anon says: Women build their lives, then think they’re going to find the ideal man that fits perfectly in like the last piece of a lifelong jigsaw puzzle… But that ideal man who fits perfectly into _their_ lives does not, nor will he ever, exist.
Any man who meets their [largely delusional] standards will have his own very full, very successful life, and will be chasing a woman like her – except 10 years younger.
Men understand [implicitly if not explicitly] that you find a quality woman, then _build_ a life together.
Wally says: Over 60 years ago there was a Flintstones episode about this very topic. A beautiful and successful woman, in her 30’s, was explaining to Wilma why it was that she was still single – “I played hard to get and I didn’t get got”. And there was an old Playboy cartoon that showed two women talking about this kind of thing, where one says that she was ready to quit looking for Mr. Right and begin looking for Mr. No-Worse-Than-the-Next-Guy. Meanwhile, that biological clock continues ticking…..
trackstar says: Consider the people giving girlbosses advice to be equivalents to the Mulvaney-PR firm.
Their advice and expertise isn’t about your brand, or making people buy stuff, but about the personal message the lunatic weirdos are trying to enforce. So, you take their advice and your brand takes 40%. Not their problem, they were more concerned about the current thing. These girls take some weirdo feminist’s advice and now you’re shrieking in your car online about being lonely. Not the weirdo feminist’s problem, they were more concerned being misandrists.
Men, who I guess were the orginal boss-bosses know that their careers are kinda secondary, or at least means to an end of getting girls, that wife and kids.
And really…are the girls we’re seeing shriek online girl-bosses? Did they spend their 20’s rising to the top of the corporate ladder or building a business? Or did they just party without consequence?
SixIron says: Its a sad state we find the current dating meta. No one is happy with it. Well, maybe all the Chads are happy but they excel no matter the environment. The rest of us are just confused. Woke garbage has made having a simple conversation a mine field of, “you cant say that”, and therefore no one can say what the really feel or think for fear of offending. Hold a door open and get the stink eye or worse. When politeness can be interpreted as negative male trait, I don’t know what can be done to fix this mess. Women acting like men isn’t going to help.
Women have changed the rules that worked for thousands of years because they were not happy about “something”. Now both sexes are miserable. Women are blaming men but women changed the deal, and further want men to change to suit them. Young men on the other hand have seen their brothers, fathers and grandfathers destroyed by divorce court, and are heeding their warnings. Work hard, make money, save for retirement, buy toys, enjoy your life with your friends that have your back. A wife isn’t part of it, the cost/risk is prohibitive.
Why would I want a woman with masculine traits? Marriage is not a competition. High body counts are not what I seek. I think it’s amusing that they seek partners who are 6 feet or taller….yet, are you overweight? The last laugh is progressive Liberal women who will not date a conservative men; yet his values are what they seek!
Bob says: I, me, my. What man would even consider ‘making a life’ with a narcissistic, whiny little girl who blames everyone but herself for her place in life.
My wonderful wife and I just celebrated our 49th wedding anniversary; it has not been all cinderella and the prince. Hard, tough times, job losses, financially on the brink, anger…but marriage can be hard work. Whatever happened, when all was said and done, we loved each other, now more than ever before. We BOTH made sacrifices. She raised two wonderful kids, each now with two of their own kids, and when they were of age, she made a wonderful career for herself. (she has four sisters, and she has always had the best legs of the group!).
Neither of us has ever cared one whit what anyone else…save our parents…told us to do, how to think, how to live our lives. If the women on the imbedded videos would stop worrying about what other think or say, and finally realized that what they’re looking for requires cutting way back on the “I/me/mys” and focus on the “we”, they might be surprised how wonderful life can be.
My husband and I celebrated our 50th anniversary this January. This year, I resolved to live up to the gift I’ve been privileged to receive – my husband. I’ve been making extra efforts to shower him with attention.
Having love in your life is not a right, it is a gift.
Show your appreciation.
Cameron says: The first video was painful to watch and I barely lasted a minute. She’s tired of being told that she’s doing things wrong but the way she’s doing things isn’t working and she can’t grasp why. What’s worse is that she’s not unique.
And with both videos, I find myself wondering how many men did they turn down because they were “nice” and they decided that being traditional wasn’t going to make them fulfilled.
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