Transgender Vaginoplasty Whine Is Big Red Flag
Transgender Vaginoplasty Whine Is Big Red Flag
A person by the name of Andrea Long Chu wrote an Op-Ed for the New York Times regarding an upcoming vaginoplasty. The only way for a man to have a vagina is the creation of a fake vagina. This piece is one of the saddest things I have ever read. Each word is more depressing and disturbing than the last one.
Chu titled the Op-Ed “My New Vagina Won’t Make Me Happy” and the subhead is “And it shouldn’t have to”. And that pretty much is the happy part of the article. Here is the very first paragraph:
Next Thursday, I will get a vagina. The procedure will last around six hours, and I will be in recovery for at least three months. Until the day I die, my body will regard the vagina as a wound; as a result, it will require regular, painful attention to maintain. This is what I want, but there is no guarantee it will make me happier. In fact, I don’t expect it to. That shouldn’t disqualify me from getting it.
That’s a big red flag right there if I ever recognized one.
Chu regards being born a boy as the worst thing that ever happened in life and being transgender is the second worst thing. Oy freaking vey. This next part is from the third paragraph:
I like to say that being trans is the second-worst thing that ever happened to me. (The worst was being born a boy.) Dysphoria is notoriously difficult to describe to those who haven’t experienced it, like a flavor. Its official definition — the distress some transgender people feel at the incongruence between the gender they express and the gender they’ve been socially assigned — does little justice to the feeling.
I felt like the kid in the classroom with her arm raised way high and yelling, “Ooh, Ooh, Ooh.” Oh, yes, please call on me teacher. I know this one. Feelings aren’t facts. Feelings can be not only misleading but wrong and destructive. DNA is a verifiable fact. Genitalia are observable facts. Now, before y’all roast me, I am aware that there are genetic anomalies and differences in genitalia. Again, quantifiable and observable. Scientific facts are not feelz. The transgender community lives on feelz.
Chu goes on to slam a “right wing narrative” that claims “gender dysphoria is a clinical delusion”. Me, I have no doubt that Chu feels what he feels. I don’t know if it is a clinical delusion or the result of some psychological trauma, depression or hormonal issues or a combination of all of the above. Way out of my lane. I do know that surgically removing genitalia and creating new genitalia along with hormone treatments cannot possibly be healthy. In fact, there is scientific research that indicates higher rates of heart disease and increased cancer risks. Let alone depression that can be caused by the hormone treatments necessary to maintain the desired body.
That’s a big red flag.
Dig the video about the dangers to the rectum in creating a vagina for a transgender person:
As a person who put off a hysterectomy for a decade because of fear of surgery, that had me sweating like a sinner in church.
But, the biggest red flag is the angry, whiny, entitled persona of Chu. After discussing his/her increased sadness and depression since beginning hormone therapy, she/he writes:
I won’t go through with it, probably. Killing is icky. I tell you this not because I’m cruising for sympathy but to prepare you for what I’m telling you now: I still want this, all of it. I want the tears; I want the pain. Transition doesn’t have to make me happy for me to want it. Left to their own devices, people will rarely pursue what makes them feel good in the long term. Desire and happiness are independent agents.
Wrong-o. Psychologically healthy people (years of therapy here) pursue the good and empathize with others. I do sympathize with Chu and I ache for him/her. I want each and every person to accept the beauty of their own body and life. Not Chu, anger and selfishness are the coin of his/her realm.
Chu has a GoFundMe account titled “Buy Me A New Body”. Yes. He demands a new body. From the account:
Transition is expensive. I’m lucky enough to have insurance that covers hormones and (most of) vaginoplasty, which I am getting in November. Everything else, including facial feminization surgery, hip augmentation surgery, vocal surgery, is considered “cosmetic,” and therefore insurance won’t cover it. That makes paying out of pocket the only option.
He is angry. He was born a boy. He wants what he wants and he wants it now. Seems like a toddler who doesn’t like being told “No”. Give it to me now.
Chu finished the New York Times Op-Ed with this:
But I also believe that surgery’s only prerequisite should be a simple demonstration of want. Beyond this, no amount of pain, anticipated or continuing, justifies its withholding.
Nothing, not even surgery, will grant me the mute simplicity of having always been a woman. I will live with this, or I won’t. That’s fine. The negative passions — grief, self-loathing, shame, regret — are as much a human right as universal health care, or food. There are no good outcomes in transition. There are only people, begging to be taken seriously.
Her message is a simple “I want. Give it to me”. Angry, whiny and big red flags all over Hell and half of Georgia.
I am sorry for Chu. Life is too short. Being happy and accepting one’s self is such a gift to your own self. It’s too bad that we cannot have an honest discussion with someone like Chu because an angry, whiny, demanding person can never hear anything beyond their own desires. No matter how destructive they may be. No one in the transgender community wants to hear anything else.
Big red flags.
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