A person by the name of Andrea Long Chu wrote an Op-Ed for the New York Times regarding an upcoming vaginoplasty. The only way for a man to have a vagina is the creation of a fake vagina. This piece is one of the saddest things I have ever read. Each word is more depressing and disturbing than the last one.
Chu titled the Op-Ed “My New Vagina Won’t Make Me Happy” and the subhead is “And it shouldn’t have to”. And that pretty much is the happy part of the article. Here is the very first paragraph:
Next Thursday, I will get a vagina. The procedure will last around six hours, and I will be in recovery for at least three months. Until the day I die, my body will regard the vagina as a wound; as a result, it will require regular, painful attention to maintain. This is what I want, but there is no guarantee it will make me happier. In fact, I don’t expect it to. That shouldn’t disqualify me from getting it.
That’s a big red flag right there if I ever recognized one.
Chu regards being born a boy as the worst thing that ever happened in life and being transgender is the second worst thing. Oy freaking vey. This next part is from the third paragraph:
I like to say that being trans is the second-worst thing that ever happened to me. (The worst was being born a boy.) Dysphoria is notoriously difficult to describe to those who haven’t experienced it, like a flavor. Its official definition — the distress some transgender people feel at the incongruence between the gender they express and the gender they’ve been socially assigned — does little justice to the feeling.
I felt like the kid in the classroom with her arm raised way high and yelling, “Ooh, Ooh, Ooh.” Oh, yes, please call on me teacher. I know this one. Feelings aren’t facts. Feelings can be not only misleading but wrong and destructive. DNA is a verifiable fact. Genitalia are observable facts. Now, before y’all roast me, I am aware that there are genetic anomalies and differences in genitalia. Again, quantifiable and observable. Scientific facts are not feelz. The transgender community lives on feelz.
Chu goes on to slam a “right wing narrative” that claims “gender dysphoria is a clinical delusion”. Me, I have no doubt that Chu feels what he feels. I don’t know if it is a clinical delusion or the result of some psychological trauma, depression or hormonal issues or a combination of all of the above. Way out of my lane. I do know that surgically removing genitalia and creating new genitalia along with hormone treatments cannot possibly be healthy. In fact, there is scientific research that indicates higher rates of heart disease and increased cancer risks. Let alone depression that can be caused by the hormone treatments necessary to maintain the desired body.
That’s a big red flag.
Dig the video about the dangers to the rectum in creating a vagina for a transgender person:
As a person who put off a hysterectomy for a decade because of fear of surgery, that had me sweating like a sinner in church.
But, the biggest red flag is the angry, whiny, entitled persona of Chu. After discussing his/her increased sadness and depression since beginning hormone therapy, she/he writes:
I won’t go through with it, probably. Killing is icky. I tell you this not because I’m cruising for sympathy but to prepare you for what I’m telling you now: I still want this, all of it. I want the tears; I want the pain. Transition doesn’t have to make me happy for me to want it. Left to their own devices, people will rarely pursue what makes them feel good in the long term. Desire and happiness are independent agents.
Wrong-o. Psychologically healthy people (years of therapy here) pursue the good and empathize with others. I do sympathize with Chu and I ache for him/her. I want each and every person to accept the beauty of their own body and life. Not Chu, anger and selfishness are the coin of his/her realm.
Demanding what they want, the transgender community will bend us all to its will. Graphic by Victory Girls’ Darleen Click
Chu has a GoFundMe account titled “Buy Me A New Body”. Yes. He demands a new body. From the account:
Transition is expensive. I’m lucky enough to have insurance that covers hormones and (most of) vaginoplasty, which I am getting in November. Everything else, including facial feminization surgery, hip augmentation surgery, vocal surgery, is considered “cosmetic,” and therefore insurance won’t cover it. That makes paying out of pocket the only option.
He is angry. He was born a boy. He wants what he wants and he wants it now. Seems like a toddler who doesn’t like being told “No”. Give it to me now.
Chu finished the New York Times Op-Ed with this:
But I also believe that surgery’s only prerequisite should be a simple demonstration of want. Beyond this, no amount of pain, anticipated or continuing, justifies its withholding.
Nothing, not even surgery, will grant me the mute simplicity of having always been a woman. I will live with this, or I won’t. That’s fine. The negative passions — grief, self-loathing, shame, regret — are as much a human right as universal health care, or food. There are no good outcomes in transition. There are only people, begging to be taken seriously.
Her message is a simple “I want. Give it to me”. Angry, whiny and big red flags all over Hell and half of Georgia.
I am sorry for Chu. Life is too short. Being happy and accepting one’s self is such a gift to your own self. It’s too bad that we cannot have an honest discussion with someone like Chu because an angry, whiny, demanding person can never hear anything beyond their own desires. No matter how destructive they may be. No one in the transgender community wants to hear anything else.
Big red flags.
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harleycowboy says: ” In fact, I don’t expect it to. That shouldn’t disqualify me from getting it.”
If you want your nose on the side of your face but………..
Toni Williams says: exactly.
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John says: Where do they get these doctors who will do this crap?
I broke my toe and my doctor wouldnt give me a single pain pill.
Toni Williams says: aw, but “transgenders” are more special than you.
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Dietrich says: Will he/she/it blog his/her/its suicide? Just the parts of the Op-Ed above are clearly a draft suicide note.
GWB says: Sadly, this is true.
I often say jokingly, “Whoever told you that looks good on you is NOT your friend!”
But, it applies here: whoever told him/her that acceptance of their dysphoria is a good thing is NOT their friend. A real friend would struggle to accept them, but also not feed their delusion or encourage it. I wonder if she/he has any real friends?
Toni Williams says: My friends and I say that when someone wears a heinous outfit. “She ain’t got no real friends.” It’s our thing.
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MikeyParks says: He can have a vagina-esque thing carved into his body. He can have false breasts installed. He can have a higher voice and less body hair. He can have all kinds of female-type things added/subtracted. What he CAN’T have is to become a “she.” That’s non-negotiable by Mother Nature. And BTW pal, your hands and feet will always look distinctly male. There’s no hormone or surgery that will fix that.
Toni Williams says: He is not interested in truth or reality. Just give him. He wants.
Too sad.
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Cameron says: That article is the most depressing thing I’ve read on this site.
Toni Williams says: I am sorry. It was depressing. I read it and just had to write about “it”.
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Cameron says: Because if said physician did not agree, they would be branded “transphobic” and the howling mobs would come after them.
GWB says: is considered “cosmetic,”
All of it should be considered “cosmetic” unless you have an actual chromosomal or other genetic issue, or something is wrong with how your body actually expressed (phenotype) compared to your genetics (genotype).
surgery’s only prerequisite should be a simple demonstration of want
Fine. That’s what we call “cosmetic surgery”. And you should damn well pay for it ALL yourself.
are as much a human right as universal health care
So, not at all, then?
There are only people, begging to be taken seriously.
No, demanding to be taken literally. There’s a difference.
Again, not all trans folks are like this. But it’s certainly part and parcel of the movement. “I demand that you approve of me and my issues!”
Stop parading around in your perversity and pretend to be normal. You’ll find a lot more tolerance that way.
Citizen Stan says: “The transgender community lives on feelz?” I’m not commenting on this article other than this statement. The writer of this article sure must know a lot of people in the transgender community to make this statement. And “feelz?” “Feelz” reads like something that an adolescent would tweet to a friend. If the writer of this article wants to be taken seriously, it might be better to refrain from making these kind of statements. Okay, I need to brace myself for the nasty comments that will hurt my “feelz.” After all, I don’t like to have my feelz hurt.
GWB says: I’m thinking more and more that “concern troll” was an accurate assessment a few days ago.
*smh*
Yes, the transgender “community” – that is, the movement – definitely “lives on feelz”.* They express nothing but how their own feelings are paramount, and they want you to bend to them, regardless of reality (like actual science).
I actually do know some of these folks – both the movement sort and the “old school” sort who simply try to live quietly as the gender they feel. And, yes, their emotions are how the movement folks seem to live their lives. And their emotions are not terribly stable.
(* Toni writes “feelz” because that is the way the immature folk who think we should change the universe to meet their desires type it. She is mocking them with their own fierce, grammatical stupidity. You’ll find that a lot when people mock those who embrace their own foolishness as the right and true way to do things. Criminy, you actually said it yourself: “Feelz” reads like something that an adolescent would tweet to a friend. That’s the whole *point*. Do you even read what you write?)
Marta Hernandez says: Weren’t you supposed to have un-assed the AO? I seem to remember the last time you decided to wax arrogant about Toni’s post and sniffily criticize her writing rather than discuss substance, you also promised us to leave, because the writers here just didn’t live up to your lofty standards. It’s interesting that you decided to stick around and post yet another obnoxiously supercilious, tonedeaf comment that’s so lacking in comprehension and self-awareness, I have to wonder if you simply have an unhealthy, pathological obsession with Toni here.
Please, don’t let the door hit you in the ass.
Cameron says: Maybe this time, he’s really REALLY serious?
dave says: An acquaintance had decided to become ‘female’.
Not sure if he had the vaginoplasty performed. Didn’t really want to know.
But the surgery to feminize his facial features and create mountainous fake breasts was horrible.
H O R R I B L E !!! He looked more feminine before the surgery. What was done
to him was grotesque.
The doctor should have been arrested and
this sad state of affairs needs to be written about.
GWB says: Something learned from spending time in virtual worlds:
Men who are faking being women are so very often easy to spot. “Being” a woman is much more than having a pair of boobs and wearing fancy clothes.
Codex says: “The worst thing in my life was being born a girl”
That would be prima fascia evidence for a systemic anti woman environment.
Citizen Stan says: GWB, thanks for your thoughtful assessment. I’d never even come across the term “control troll” until your previous comment. You sure do seem to consider yourself blessed with insight and knowledge on a wide variety of issues and subjects. Yes, I realized that perhaps the writer was trying to be clever in her use of “feelz,” but it still sounded petty and immature. I’ve read other articles on this site where the writers have used social media slang words in a manner that wasn’t meant to be ironic or mocking and they just ended up sounded immature. I guess they were using their own “fierce grammatical stupidty.” Somehow I’m not surprised that you consider yourself informed and experienced enough to offer your opinion on the “feelz” of the transgender community as a whole. Well, I think I’m done for good on this site. You seem to have such a vast resource of knowledge that I’ll leave the comments to you Mr. HTT. “HTT” is social media slang that I just created unless it’s already been used and I’m not aware of it. It’s a product of my own fierce grammatical stupidity.
scott says: Don’t let the door hit ya!
GWB says: Come on back when your reading comprehension is better, and you’re no longer blinded by a slavish devotion to a “proper tone”. Because then you might actually be ready to discuss the topics.
You might even have something to contribute to the conversation, and we might learn something.
Cameron says: HTT stands for Hokago Tea Time, the group from K-On. The more you know…
Citizen Stan says: Thanks but I think I’ll pass GWB. You seem to be all knowing about so many topics and people I won’t disrupt your self-appointed role as the puffed up strutting protecting rooster of the cackling hens in this chicken house. Bless your heart.
Marta Hernandez says: I guarantee you that the vast majority of us are better educated and have a better grasp of the English language than you do, sir. We are also mature enough to merely stop visiting a website if the writing is not to our liking, instead of making supercilious critiques of the bloggers’ language and refusing to engage in actual substantive conversation. This tells me you are simply a self-important, attention-seeking pedant who has a pathological need to issue stern language criticisms, while contributing nothing of value to the discussion.
Ergo, I would cordially invite you to vacate the discussion, since you don’t seem to comprehend creative use of language and insist on projecting your arrogance and pretension onto others instead of taking a long look in the mirror.
In other words – to use a colloquialism – piss off!
scott says: Hmmm, didn’t you tell us yesterday that you wee leaving? So now you’ve proved that you’re a liar as well as a fool… Just like all the self important asses that said they’d leave the country when Bush, then Trump were elected… it’d be nice to see a leftist keep their word just once, on some topic other than destroying our country..
To follow on earlier posts, Bye Felecia!!
GWB says: You know, on the know-it-all aspect….
I don’t claim to know it all. I do have a pretty good breadth of experience, and I love learning. (I’m constantly learning new stuff.)
But, when it comes down to it, it is pretty easy to seem a know-it-all, when the people with whom you’re arguing demonstrate not the least bit of curiosity, reason, or grasp of the basic facts. It’s easy to seem like a brilliant scientist when you’re arguing with people over something like the biology of XX and XY chromosomes. Or when people are arguing from absolutist or ridiculous positions (“white people are all racist!” or “cops are all fascists!” or “Trump supporters are NAZIs!”).
Many of the points I argue here (and elsewhere) come from a basic understanding of human nature, science, logic, theology, and knowing how the hell to look things up. They’re not all that deep, in terms of IQ. If someone wants to disagree on some issue of merit, and not by denying very key truths, then I’m more than willing to listen and learn. But, otherwise, I’m going to come across as a know-it-all to some, because even a half-empty glass is a wealth of water by comparison when it sits next to an empty thimble.
Citizen Stan says: I didn’t read the most recent comments responding to my comments unti today. It seems to me that the rules for this blog are:
1. You are generally required to agree wtih the basic points made in the blogs.
2. You aren’t allowed to criticize writing style, only content, although I doubt that ongoing criticism of content is allowed either.
3. If you don’t follow these rules you will have your intelilgence questioned and be told to “piss off” in different ways.
It seems that you’re basically preaching to your own choir here. Did any of you ever contemplate that your comments are part of the type of discourse that turned moderate and centrist voters away from the Republican parrty in the midterms? As my mom would have said, “You’re cutting of your nose to spite your face.” Marta, your comment seems unusually strong coming from somebody who writes poltical and cultural commentary, but it does fit in with this site. I always assumed that writers of political and cultural commentary had a pretty thick skin, but maybe you’re an exception. If I’m remembering correctly, I’ve only made comments on articles I’ve read on the interent two times before reading this blog. Both of those comments were pretty benign and were in the reader comments section of a newspaper with a fairly large circulation. I’m sorry, GWB, but I don’t think I qualify as a long term “concern troll,” but I’ll defer to your superior knoweldge and intellectual curiosity if you want to call me a concern troll.
I was curious about the type of responses I’d get if I wrote any comments that were critical about articles on this site. Your responses were just as I expected. Marta, I imagine you’d have problems maintaining employment as a writer with many commercial publications that paid their writers if you handled criticism by telling readers to “piss off,” but then again that could be why you’re writing for a blog. There’s certainly nothing inherently wrong with writing for a blog, but the bar can be set pretty low for blog writers.
Cameron, sorry but I didn’t use HTT to refer to Hokoga Tea Time. I’d never heard of them before your comment.
Anyway, everyone have a Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays, and that goes doubly for Marta because it sounds like she needs it.
Marta Hernandez says: Oh, you’re still here? *yawn*
Concerned says: You don’t have the rights to this photo. Don’t steal other people’s work.
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