As if race relations aren’t complex enough in this country, along comes a feminist and ‘sexuality educator’ who advises white women of “seven things to remember” if they happen to date a “person of color.”
I kid you not.
Melissa Fabello is an expert, you see, because she’s in her third interracial relationship. Why any of these wonderful pairings haven’t turned into anything more permanent is because the woman is a total buzzkill.
As she puts it: “Because when you’re a white person in an interracial relationship, there’s this whole – ohhh, ya know – white supremacy thing hanging in the air.” The first bit of advice she gives the reader is to “be willing to talk about race.” And then, “Being honest about the ways in which race is complex – both inside and outside of your relationship – shows a willingness to engage with a part of your partner’s identity and experience in a way that really holds them.”
Awkwaaaard. . .
And about your family? Oh, be prepared, she advises. People you love are gar-on-teed to make racist comments. “Whether it’s your well-meaning family or your supposed-to-be-socially-conscious friends, sometimes people are going to say or do things that are f**ked up. And it’s your job – both as the partner and a fellow white person – to say something.”