Over the weekend, I was listening to political pundits discussing the colossal steaming pile of Donkey dung that is ObamaCare—that has now cost upwards of two million Americans their healthcare policies—rightly criticizing Mr. Obama’s complete lack of oversight and accountability on his signature legislation. They then turned to the subject of his quality as a father. The consensus from the bipartisan panel was that, yes, of course he’s a “good father,” no question about it. Let’s unpack that, shall we.

What is a good father? With the plethora of worldviews, what constitutes a “good father” for me is not necessarily what makes a good father for someone else. But I think there are a handful of qualities that many of us can agree on. So, with that:

A good father teaches his children the value of hard work and self-reliance. He does not teach dependence; he does not teach lethargy; and he does not teach his child that society owes him. He instills in his child a reverence for hard work, and an abhorrence to sloth and envy.

A good father does not lie and he keeps his promises. He does not guarantee a trip to Disneyland, then deliver his child to the endodontist for a root canal. A good father does not practice selective amnesia. He tells his children the truth, good, bad, or ugly, and expects the same from them. And a good father does not teach his children to viciously bully those with whom they disagree.

A good father models personal responsibility. He does not teach them that, when faced with a crisis, they should point fingers at everyone else, never admitting their own role. He expects, when his own children come home from school with a bad grade, they hold themselves accountable, not place blame on their teacher, a lack of sleep, or their classmates. Nor does he teach them that the end goal justifies anything in between.

A good father teaches his children fiscal responsibility. A good father does not max out his credit cards, call up his bank and demand more credit, and then take an exotic vacation on borrowed money from his neighbor. He does not tout his fiscal responsibility, then run up his debt past seventeen trillion and expect his children to bail him out.. Which brings me to my next point.

A good father is not a hypocrite. A good father does not impose one set of rules for himself, and another for his progeny. Nor does he instill in them an arrogant entitlement mentality that, because of their fortunate lot in life, makes them more worthy than the young man who busts his hump at the local fast food joint, while pointing his finger at the “evil rich” as the reason some are struggling. No, a good father sets an example for his children, is consistent, lives by the same rules he sets for them, and does what he can to help his neighbor.

A good father is like my husband. Leading by example, he wakes up every day at 5:30 a.m., hauls himself into his office, and works to support his family. He works so that one day he can employ others, and make a difference in our community. But most of all, he works for our daughter, whom he has shown that success comes from making a dedicated effort, does not happen instantaneously, is challenging, and does not come from someone else’s pocket. And he knows how to say the word “No.”

A good father is like my brother-in-law who has modeled for his own daughter personal and fiscal responsibility, trustworthiness, dependability, the value of holding a job earning her own money, and the reward of an education funded by her own hard work.

And a good father is like my father-in-law, whom we lost to cancer earlier this summer. He spent his entire life in labor, then built a successful business, while raising three remarkable men who are as hard-working and family-oriented as they come. He taught his children that self-reliance is desirable, not something to be shunned in favor of indolence. He spent his life adoring his wife, loving his grandchildren, and never holding out his palm, or complaining, when times got tough. And when they did, he walked the walk.

So, is Barack Obama a “good father?” You’ll have to decide that for yourself. I’ve already drawn my conclusion.