Groomer Doesn’t Mean What You Might Think It Means

Groomer Doesn’t Mean What You Might Think It Means

Groomer Doesn’t Mean What You Might Think It Means

In a twist on the derisive internet sneer, “Okay, Boomer,” some conservatives are using “Okay, Groomer” to mock progressive teachers who promote gender theory in schools. They think it’s brilliant satire. But it doesn’t mean what they think it means.



What Groomer Really Means

The term “grooming” refers to the process by which adult pedophiles gain the trust of their young victims. Like all predators, both in the animal and human world, they pick the most vulnerable to prey upon. They pick kids who come from dysfunctional homes, who have little or no spiritual background, and whose fathers are often missing. A true groomer aims his (or her — women can abuse too) attentions upon that one single kid and gains their trust after a long period of time.

In this video, two male sex offenders explain how they pick their targets, and how the grooming process works.

This is truly heinous, to be sure. But this is not what’s happening in classrooms where gender theory is being taught. There’s something equally insidious going on.


A Different Kind of Groomer

In a viral Twitter thread, podcaster Josh Daws explains why the “groomer” accusation is so off the mark, and why so many teachers want to talk about sexuality.

Hint: it has nothing to do with sexual abuse or wanting to diddle your kids.

Daws continues in his thread:

“The left doesn’t want to diddle kids. They want to create little revolutionaries. To do that they need to sever the bond between students and the parents they believe are raising their children to be hateful bigots.”

It starts with Critical Race Theory, which progressive teachers use to tear down the confidence of students, especially those who are white.

“In order to sever the bond between parents and their children, the left is using a two-pronged approach. Critical Race Theory and radical gender ideology (properly known as Queer Theory) are not two unrelated sets of ideas. They are two parts of the same strategy.”

They convince these children that they are somehow privileged because of their skin color, and because of that they’re bad. This is the opposite of what their parents have taught them, which is that hard brings success in life, not skin color. But now they feel guilt and shame for believing the lessons from home.

And Step One, as Daws says, is complete. Enter Step Two: Queer Theory.

“Once CRT is done tearing down these kids and leaving them with a negative self-identity, Queer Theory (QT) is introduced and offers them a wide assortment of positive self-identities to choose from.”

“Instead of living with the shame and guilt of being a member of the oppressive dominant culture, these students can be celebrated for coming out as gender nonbinary or pansexual.”

And poof! Mission accomplished.


These Teachers Actually Love Your Kids

Josh Daws explains that rather than seeing children as targets for sexual pleasure, these teachers instead think they’re doing what’s best for their students:

“Hear me loud and clear on this. Most teachers love the kids in their classrooms and want only the best for them. They have had their empathy *for* these students weaponized *against* them by leftist activists promoting educational programs that sound nice and caring ….” 

Here’s how a teacher in the North Kansas City school district shows how she “loves” her Pre-K students. These are largely 4-year-olds.

But if parents object, some teachers will outsmart them. And then brag about it on social media.


Not All Teachers Follow This Agenda

I must be clear here: certainly not all public school teachers follow this radical agenda. Back when I was working as a speech pathologist in an urban district, I knew many conservative teachers. There were also many dedicated teachers who focused their instruction on the basics while contending with social issues endemic in urban areas. But then again, I left the public school milieu in 2009 — long before Critical Race Theory and Queer Theory emerged in classrooms.

I do have an idea for public school parents, however. You know those video cameras that teachers were using for Zoom lessons during the pandemic? Insist that they continue to broadcast what’s going on in the classroom. Or, better yet, pull your kids from public schools, if you can.

But don’t fight this agenda by using social media to accuse the average teacher of being a pedophile “groomer.” Because that word doesn’t mean what you think it means.


Featured image: Jon/flickr/cropped/CC BY-NC 2.o.


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Kim is a pint-sized patriot who packs some big contradictions. She is a Baby Boomer who never became a hippie, an active Republican who first registered as a Democrat (okay, it was to help a sorority sister's father in his run for sheriff), and a devout Lutheran who practices yoga. Growing up in small-town Indiana, now living in the Kansas City metro, Kim is a conservative Midwestern gal whose heart is also in the Seattle area, where her eldest daughter, son-in-law, and grandson live. Kim is a working speech pathologist who left school system employment behind to subcontract to an agency, and has never looked back. She describes her conservatism as falling in the mold of Russell Kirk's Ten Conservative Principles. Don't know what they are? Google them!

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  • Some are pedophiles. Some are racists. Some are Marxists. Or any of the four combinations of those.

    What ALL of them are, is evil.

  • Wyldkat says:

    I disagree.

    In this case they are grooming them to be hate everything their parents stood for.

    It is still grooming.

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  • Cameron says:

    Let them sputter, let them rage. They want to deny that they are grooming kids? Fine. The they get to justify why it’s so important for little children to hear about their teacher’s sex life.

    Whether or not the terminology is wrong (And I don’t think it is), they need to be on the defensive and justify why they should be allowed to work with children.

  • GWB says:

    The left doesn’t want to diddle kids. They want to create little revolutionaries.
    WRONG. They want to create little hedonists. This is a prime doctrine of the Progressive church: sexuality above all else.
    The other concept is to break down any sort of connection to reality, so they can be indoctrinated into the idea that humanity can simply change itself into the utopic ideal by force of will. (The Progressive doctrine is that there is no “human nature.”)

    That hedonism does lead, however, to them “diddling your kids”. As long as they consent. Which is why the “grooming”. It’s not about getting into the knickers of any one child, it’s about destroying all barriers between children (and the adults they will become) and sexuality. Once that’s done, then everyone can have an open field of sexual partners, of all types, all ages, all genders, as many as consent.

    these teachers instead think they’re doing what’s best for their students
    Because they are steeped in Progressive ideology/religion. They believe their doctrines – hedonism, mutability of humans, an earthly utopia, etc. The muslim also thinks it’s for the best to put their women in sacks and to beat them. The muslim thinks it’s beneficial to mutilate a woman’s sex organs. No, it’s not necessarily their fault – it’s the fault of the ideology which they follow blindly.

    certainly not all public school teachers follow this radical agenda
    True. Just like all cops aren’t power-hungry fascists.
    However, most of them nowadays are corrupted by Progressive indoctrination in education schools, their own upbringing in public education, and the general culture. Even many “conservatives” have been tainted by the indoctrination. It took me years to figure out where those bits of corruption were in my thinking.

    Or, better yet, pull your kids from public schools, if you can.
    Homeschool, or neighborhood co-op school. Those are really the only way you can maintain control.

    It is “grooming”. They are raising your children to be hedonists, like themselves.
    (And, more than enough of them actually do want to diddle your kids, too. They’re arresting them left and right and still not getting all of them.)

    • GWB says:

      Please note: I do not think that ordinary muslim doctrine is to put your women into sacks and then beat them. They, however, both put them in sacks and beat them.

  • GWB says:

    One other item to ponder.
    This “well, it’s really not grooming” sounds a little like an “it’s not a slippery slope” argument.

    But it IS. And “grooming” is an attempt to put the kids on that slippery slope and give them a gentle push.

  • Parasols says:

    The agenda of the leftists, radical or not, is to both divide children from parents, AND to erase generally accepted sexual morals. According to the left, Mommy and Daddy don’t have the right to teach their children about sexual activity, and certainly are wrong in not helping their children pick their preferred “gender”. If children, with the help of the non-parental adults in their lives, can choose their sexual identity at younger and younger ages, then those children will soon be allowed to act out their sexual identities with adults.

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