Real women, perhaps subconsciously, mirror the lives that celebrities lead. Women like Angelina Jolie have a lot to do with the fact that single motherhood is far more accepted today than it was twenty years ago — or even ten years ago. So when middle-aged single women decide that they must have children, there’s nothing or no one who will stop them. Cosmo interviewed Jane Mattes, the director of Single Mothers By Choice, and together, they championed the idea of redefining the structure of America’s families.
[T]he idea of “family” has changed drastically over recent years, and people have a more flexible view–whether it’s kids being raised by unmarried couples, gay couples, or single parents. “A large number of us have also witnessed our parents go through a nasty divorce or had absentee fathers, so that intact nuclear family just isn’t the model anymore,” says Mattes. The result: single motherhood is a growing trend.
Notice how nowhere in that paragraph was a married couple mentioned — and how the destruction of the American nuclear family is presented as a good thing. Many people grew up with absentee fathers, so the answer is to raise children without any father at all? And of course, we haven’t seen what the long-term results of these experimental families will be. But that wouldn’t stop Cosmo and Mattes from championing the destruction of nuclear families. Nuclear families, at least, are proven to give parents the best chance of raising healthy, well-adjusted children. A family with a married mother and father is the best family a child can have, but why bother with that when there’s a social engineering agenda to push?
WayneB says: The whole problem with this kind of thing stems from the fact that it starts with well-to-do people. A couple of years ago there was an article about a woman, I can’t remember the whole story, but after she had had one or two children for a while, she decided she was going to write a book on how to be a good mother while having a career, too. This woman had a total of FIVE other women who helped take care of her children (and perhaps her house – don’t remember). How can she possibly give other people advice if she can’t do the job herself?
Other women see what these women of means do without seeing all the help they have by virtue of their money, and think they can do the same thing. Then, after they have raised a child with virtually no parental involvement, or else after having gone on Welfare, with its own attendant problems, so they can raise the child themselves, they wonder how they have raised a little monster.
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