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OK, so guys think that Megan Fox is hot. I personally don’t agree, but good for her. Now, I’m not an idiot. I understand why guys think she’s hot. You look at her, and she’s pretty. She’s sexy. She’s got that smoldering bad girl thing going on. But then she opens her mouth… and it ruins it all for me. I’m just a girl, so perhaps that doesn’t matter for men. But when someone is this much of a raging bitch, how can you still find her attractive? After reading this interview with Megan Fox, I’m convinced that she epitomizes everything that is wrong with women today. Check out her illuminating statements in the new Cosmopolitan:
MEGAN FOX is scary as she is sexy.
The Transformers beauty has been giving her verdict on relationships and leaves us in no doubt who wears the trousers in her house.
She told Cosmopolitan magazine: “Women hold the power because we have the vaginas.
“If you’re in a heterosexual relationship and you’re female, you win.”
Ouch.
Megan didn’t stop there. She also explained how she puts men in their place.
“I never call them guys, I always call them boys,” she explained.
“Maybe it’s a superiority complex – my needing to keep them down.”
Ya think??
Reading this, I just couldn’t help but think that this is exactly the problem with women and relationships today. Too many women think exactly this way, “empowered” by third wave feminism and Sex and the City. When the woman in the relationship has this kind of attitude, it dooms the relationship. It doesn’t matter how Beta the man may be. It will be doomed to fail.
Too many women are seduced by the common image in the media today of the sexy, high-powered, important, ball-busting career woman. She’s hot, she’s smart, she doesn’t take any crap, and she knows she’s got it all. She doesn’t need a man. Think Samantha or Miranda from Sex and the City. About half of the heroines in chick flicks fit this mold (the other half are desperate for a man and do nothing but sit around waiting for Mr. Right to magically appear). They always end up with some man who surprises them and is “nothing that they want”, but inevitably, the man who starts off in the beginning unwilling to be Ms. Powerful’s doormat always ends up, in the end, becoming just that. After seeing that for so long, women start to emulate those women. They expect their relationships to work that way. They expect to be able to get away with being a ball-busting bitch and have their man just happily take it.
There’s just a small problem.
No man will ever be happy in that kind of relationship, and neither will any woman.
The problems will inevitably surface, even if the major Alpha woman, like Megan Fox, finds the Beta-ist of the Beta males. He will silently resent her for being so disrespectful and inconsiderate, even if he’s too scared to actually say or do anything. And while she’ll momentarily enjoy the power she has over him, she will eventually resent him and lose respect for him because he is such a spineless sap. If they stay together, they can never be truly happy.
Megan Fox ultimately is the epitome of why so many women can’t find a good man or a good relationship. So many of them have Megan Fox’s exact attitude: because they have the vagina, they have the power. Men are sex-crazed wimps who are easy to control and manipulate. They aren’t worthy of respect. And then they don’t understand why it is that they can’t hold onto a man long-term. So many women honestly cannot understand what it is that they’re doing wrong, and it’s so easy to figure out. It’s just that women have been, in a sense, brainwashed by popular culture today. They think men want the ballsy, confident woman. And to an extent, men do. They want a woman who can be assertive and confident, who is intelligent and can hold her own weight. The part that women miss out on, however, is the part where the confident, assertive, intelligent woman is also respectful and loving; who sees her boyfriend or her husband as her equal and not as an inferior being who should feel lucky to kiss the ground she walks on. Women want to be adored by men, but often times they don’t reciprocate the adoration. And they have no clue how important respect is for a man in a relationship. Be disrespectful to your man enough and you can kiss your relationship goodbye. There is nothing worse for a guy than being disrespected by his woman. It’s the worst insult there is for him. And even if he does nothing to stand up for himself, the relationship will fail, because ultimately, what woman wants to date a man she can’t respect?
And that is why Megan Fox holds no attraction at all to me. I may just be a heterosexual woman, but I can still look at a girl and see that she’s smoking hot. And Megan Fox is indeed stunningly beautiful… but then, so is everyone else in Hollywood. Her ugly attitude completely ruins her good looks.
Women, this is the problem, summed up in one interview. Too many of you think exactly this way, and it needs to stop. The entitlement attitude and lack of respect are why you are so dissatisfied in your relationships and can’t hold onto a man. Whenever you’re ready for a good relationship, it’s simple: stop being such a raging bitch, and you will be happier in life and in love. Perhaps more women should give it a try.
Though there is a certain truth to what she says…
I mean, what man can seriously back up the threat of “no sex”? Women can throw that threat around, and scare the guy. We just get laughed at.
Sorry, but I had a girlfriend who tried that “No sex” BS with me. I dumped her.
Sex should be between two people who are committed to each other, and if the only thing that you see sex as is a way to have power over someone then I have no use for you in my life.
Amusingly, she did try to get back together with me but since I knew I couldn’t trust her to not try and pull the “I’m in charge” routine again I declined and found someone else who I am happily married to.
BobV says: Yeah the whole “I win because I’m a girl and if you don’t like it then I’ll withold sex so there” thing doesn’t really appeal to me.
No amount of hotness can compensate for that level of bitchiness.
Adequate actress, by which I mean better than Barbara Bach in The Spy Who Loved Me (1977). But horribly, horribly miscast. She would have been great as the (spoilers follow) Decepticon robot who disguises herself as a cute coed so she can murder Indiana Jones’ kid in the dorm room. As Indiana Jones’ kid’s girlfriend, it would have been a far better call to cast the Dancing With The Stars cutie Shawn Johnson or someone who looks like girl-next-door Elisabeth Shue back in the day…or Katherine Ross, back in another day.
As for her attitude: At her age, it actually makes a lot of sense. Twenty-somethings think of it as commodities trading, and she’s worked really hard to achieve precisely the look that is in the greatest demand, so she’s showing the behavior that capitalizes on it the best.
There’s just a small problem. No man will ever be happy in that kind of relationship, and neither will any woman.
There’s a bigger problem than that: The thinking involved is as simplistic as it can possibly be, on both sides.
When you have set yourself up in an antagonistic role, it’s best to be hard to read. The power-mongering-bitch thing is such a simple thing to read, and an even easier thing to understand. And so long before the immature male mind figures out this kind of woman is a waste of his time and energy — like, ten years earlier than that — even if he possesses only a mediocre amount of intelligence, like what Ms. Fox possesses of acting ability, it’s a relatively easy task for him to begin…drum roll please…
…manipulating her right back. And there are lots of ways to do this.
As for attraction, this straight man says no thanks. Her face just gives this attitude away; first time I saw her nose & chin I just presumed she was like this. Unfair? Maybe. Inaccurate? Heh. Just go back and read that Cosmo interview one more time.
Trust me on this one: If for some reason we had a rule in place that you couldn’t buy a ticket to any movie until after you’d been divorced at least once — Megan Fox would NOT be famous. That much I can promise you.
Andy says: The solution to this is to God’s design for sexuality and not have it until your married. I know its very tough, especially in today’s society, but couples who do always seem to have better relationships. A big reason is that The Bible says its sinful for one marriage partner to deny sex to the other (whether its the male or female) so the issue of a women denying her man sex to assert power shouldn’t come up. Its funny how young single men think they are being more manly by having sex, when in reality these guys are being completely emasculated by their controlling girlfriends.
I catch shit for it from my friends all the time, but when I see outrageous slutaciousness, vacuousness, or just plain moonbattery, it usually kills the attraction, no matter how hot she is. See: any of those really hot chicks PETA finds to hand out horrible food.
Scott Jacobs,
Obviously, a duel of the sexes is never the best route, but what works for me when a chick tries that road, is after sex, turn on your PS2, hop on the internet, go out for a solo movie, whatever floats your boat. Something to demonstrate that, “hey, I love the sex, but vaginas are actually more common than wangs, so I think I’ll be alright”. Drives ’em batshit crazy. Don’t worry about them cutting and running; if they do, well, that was more of a demonstration of personality than several failed years together could be.
Cas, I understand where you’re coming from, and I agree, she’s simply low class, but don’t think for a second that she would hold any real power with a real man. Men know how to neg women like that, because they can manipulated just as easily as many men can. Women have vaginas, but we have something even more powerful as men: social tools to exploit female self-confidence to our own advantage.
To all respectable ladies: ignore this, you’ll find a good man, eventually.
There’s two problems with her attitude. One is her mercenary approach to relationships; I get what I want or I walk (or slam my legs shut). The second is: if you’re using sex as a weapon, then you’re inviting guys to use it back against you. Nothing justifies rape, but she’s laying the groundwork for it.
She’s easy on the eyes, yeah. But every time she opens her mouth I like her less and less, and I’ve felt that way for some time now.
Stephen J. says: It’s the feminine counterpart of the typical “guys are @$$holes” thing: Be a bitch, and you’ll be intriguing and challenging; somebody you can fight with with a clear conscience and who doesn’t need the pretense of lifelong devotion to be gotten into bed.
And it has the same problem: The strategies that promote short-term success are counterproductive when implemented for long-term viability. Megan’s strategy will work for now, for what she wants right now. Time may bring wisdom and change… but in Hollywood it’s tragically likely it won’t.
t.ferg says: All boobs and no brain. Not at all like our girl Cassie!
I’m sure plenty of guys will fantasize about a beautiful girl who’s some sort of celebrity regardless of her personality. Nine times out of ten he’ll know nothing about her true personality anyway, just the role she plays on TV. But while that no doubt pays off for her at the box office, I’m sure it does nothing to get her a real relationship. There she’s in the same position as any other woman: Yes, in the real world, pretty counts for a lot with guys. But rude, arrogant, and selfish will kill the appeal of pretty very fast.
At one point it occurred to me that my ex-wife and I had very different ideas of marriage. I saw it as a partnership, two people both trying to work for the benefit of both. She saw it as a contest with a winner and a loser, and she was determined to be the winner. I presume that’s part of why she’s now my EX-wife. Not that I left her. I finally got fed up with being a doormat and started saying now, and she left me.
Great comments, Cassy. I really never had an opinion about Megan Fox, other than that she was somebody that apparently as a relatively young, single guy, I’m supposed to think is hot. Now I’m more reminded of the verse in Proverbs about a gold ring in a pig’s snout.
2 other thoughts – Scarlett Johansson similarly repulsed me with her stupidity a few years ago in Cosmo (yes, I’ve perused it occasionally). I think her exact comment was that “if George Bush had his way, every woman would have 6 kids and there would be no abortions.”
Also, R.S. McCain had a post a few weeks ago humorously(IMHO) and in slightly risque fashion warning women against the long-term consequences of this action, so to speak.
And it has the same problem: The strategies that promote short-term success are counterproductive when implemented for long-term viability. Megan’s strategy will work for now, for what she wants right now. Time may bring wisdom and change… but in Hollywood it’s tragically likely it won’t.
Great point, Stephen J. With all due respect to Cassie, I think that’s the point she’s missing: women who treat men with respect and kindness often have trouble in the short term. It pays off in the long term.
I know several very wonderful, amazing, kind, maternal women who didn’t find a good husband until their mid-30s. Likewise, several of my friends who are kind to the core and still single. There are some horrifically bitchy women who are dating or married to very, very nice men. (Part of me wants to add “for now” to that, because I cannot help but think that those men will eventually decide that they can’t live their lives like that.)
To put it into nerd terms: being a loving women is a necessary, but not a sufficient, condition for finding and keeping a good man.
Thomas says: we men will tolerate a lot of a woman is pretty enough.
🙂
Thomas says: wow. english skills for the win.
I meant to say..
we men will tolerate a lot IF a woman is pretty enough
Steve says: I don’t tolerate this attitude at all. A lull is one thing, using sex as a weapon is unacceptable. My rejoiner is thus “I’m having sex. I’d prefer it to be with you. You have until Wednesday. Otherwise, I’ll be having sex with another.”
It works either way…
Wil says: The woman I loved was a bit mean. It can be exciting to have a wily one on your hand. Miss Fox has zero appeal to me.
Um, she’s really impressive. But not in the way she thinks.
“Instead of the entire planet, can you just take out all of the white trash, hillbilly, anti-gay, super bible-beating people in Middle America?” – what Megan Fox opines she would say to Megatron if she met him in real life, before all those people who used to go to her movies found out what an elitist snob she is.
Well, I’ll state for the record that she is physically quite attractive. However, her brain and its associated attitude I find quite off putting.
I have a female friend of mine who used to joke that “women are 50% of the population but we control 100% of the pussy.” I would then ask her how she liked being single. Fortunately, she grew up and married a good guy who, when she occasionally reverts to her former self, simply ignores her bullshit until she comes around.
Hey, I was a physics major. The threat of “no sex” wouldn’t have worked onme because, well, it wouldn’t have been different from any other day.
Regarding Megan Fox, I once told one of my male student workers this:
“Hot women these days are a dime a dozen. What is truly rare is integrity.”
I think this idea applies quite nicely to Ms. Fox.
As for males putting up with that sort of nonsense: they deserve everything that they get.
Yes, men put up with a lot of b.s. to be with pretty. They put up with even more to get sex, especially to get sex from a pretty woman. I don’t feel sorry for them at all.
Continuing the list of people for whom I do not shed any tears: men who hear “No sex outside of a committed relationship” or “No sex outside of marriage” and decide that such is unacceptable, but then cannot seem to figure out a) they date mostly bitchy whores and b) why their nice girlfriends will not act like the aforementioned whore exes.
Mat,
Yes, it’s hard to find a woman of integrity; both stupid men and bad women have done their best to ensure that they don’t exist.
I still maintain that conservative public policy groups – some of which meet at lunch time (such as some Federalist Society events… and the group is very happy to have non-lawyers participate!), some in the evenings – might be a good place to look. Alternatively, let it be known that you’re looking (if you haven’t already); a lot of people know very wonderful women who can’t seem to find a decent man (and, as per above, that “acting with integrity” thing can be a deal-breaker with a lot of men).
“Mat,
Yes, it’s hard to find a woman of integrity; both stupid men and bad women have done their best to ensure that they don’t exist.”
True. Case in point, one of my male student workers came back from Europe last semester (it was Study Abroad) and were talking about it at work tonight. He went to Amsterdam and was talking about the prostitutes there. And he went on about how hot they were and that even I would want to have sex with them. I looked at him and said, “No, no I wouldn’t.” And then went on to explain the reasons that I’ve stated a number of times on this website and even in this thread. And then came the standard reply: “But dude, they’re totally hot! They could be cover models!” And unfortunately, that’s a pretty typical attitude on campus (and it’s what I see that’s a big reason that I’m much more pessimistic about our future than you are, but then I happen to lean in that direction anyway…the fact that I’m also an ultra-cynic probably doesn’t help either).
This, of course, doesn’t even add in the cellphone conversation I just happened to overhear on the bus going back from campus to my parking lot in which the guy was obviously drunk and shouting at some girl on the other end. No, there isn’t much integrity at all anywhere it seems. Most guys wouldn’t know integrity if it was right in front of them.
OlympicLeprechaun says: “They want a woman who can be assertive and confident, who is intelligent and can hold her own weight. The part that women miss out on, however, is the part where the confident, assertive, intelligent woman is also respectful and loving; who sees her boyfriend or her husband as her equal and not as an inferior being.”
Spot on, and also pretty much encapsulates the appeal of women like Sarah Palin and Cassy Fiano: beautiful hearts and strong values, which only makes a pretty face and soft curves even more desirable.
Isn’t it ironic that such women are more popular with men than with other women?
And then came the standard reply: “But dude, they’re totally hot! They could be cover models!”
What’s that line? “No matter how hot she is, some man, some where, is tired of her s–t.”
Now, to point out that both sexes are capable of being shallow: I went out with my co-workers for a drink one night. While I chatting away with them, some 60-something guy sat down next to me and slid his hand up my skirt. (EEEWWWW.) When I mentioned that to a woman later on, her response was, “Was he at least rich?”. Sorry, sweetie, not a prostitute.
Isn’t it ironic that such women are more popular with men than with other women?
Women often have freakishly good b.s. detectors with respect to other women… so unpopularity with women, OlympicLeprechaun, is actually quite an insult. (That does not mean that good women never have their detractors; they just also have their supporters and close friends.)
Which leads me to this point: the former Gov. Palin has many hard-core women supporters. I’ve met dozens of women who were tremendously excited by her candidacy. Let me tell you, I am not the only one who did the happy Sarah Palin dance when McCain nominated her.
Cassy’s commenters skew heavily male, but that’s not representative of her personal life. Let’s put it this way: she’s not going to have trouble finding bridesmaids for her wedding.
Kristen says: I don’t even think she’s that pretty. Anyone can look like that if they have millions of dollars to spend on dieticians, stylists, makeup and clothes. I just can’t wait for women like that to lose their looks and realize that they never did anything at all of importance. They have no real endearing qualities and get attention for it. It’s sickening.
Radshaw says: 🙄 megan fox is an bimbo 🙄
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