What kind of person would tell a Medal of Honor recipient who fought in three wars that they can’t fly an American flag from a flagpole? The president of a homeowners association, that’s who.

Generally I don’t like homeowners associations. The people who run them are like the nerds who got picked on in high school as soon as they get a modicum of power. They abuse it and extort it and go mad trying to control everything. They’ll say it’s because of “the rules”, but who sets the rules of a homeowners association? The officers of the homeowners association do. So can’t they just as easily let an issue go? They never do, though, because that would ruin the feeling of power and control they get from ordering around their neighbors. This story is a perfect example of that. And it goes beyond an annoying power weasel on your HOA — it’s downright indecent.

A flood of help is building for an embattled Medal of Honor recipient in Henrico County who was ordered this week to remove a flagpole from his yard by his community’s homeowners association.

From the halls of Congress to the 90-year-old colonel’s old infantry unit, a local law firm and scores of service members, help is making its way to Col. Van T. Barfoot.

“He said he was outraged and wanted to help,” Barfoot’s daughter said yesterday, speaking of U.S. Sen. Mark R. Warner, D-Va., who learned of Barfoot’s plight on TimesDispatch.com yesterday.

In a five-paragraph letter that he received Tuesday, Barfoot was ordered to remove the flagpole from his yard in the Sussex Square community in far western Henrico County. The decorated veteran of three wars raises the American flag every morning on the pole, then lowers and folds the flag at dusk in a three-corner military fashion.

The Coates & Davenport law firm in Richmond sent a priority-mail letter ordering Barfoot to remove the pole by 5 p.m. Friday or face “legal action being brought to enforce the covenants and restrictions against you.” The letter states that Barfoot will be subject to paying all legal fees and costs in any successful legal proceeding pursued by the homeowners association’s board.

A Richmond law firm, Marchant, Honey & Baldwin, offered yesterday to represent Barfoot at no cost, partner John Honey said.

In a statement released last night, the association said Barfoot is in direct violation of its board’s July decision to deny his request to erect a flagpole.

“This is not about the American flag. This is about a flagpole,” the statement reads, noting that many homes in the neighborhood display the American flag.

… Nicholls said her father’s phone “is ringing off the hook.” Members of the 157th Infantry Unit, with which he served, have called along with scores of people concerned about Barfoot’s welfare, she said.

Barfoot can’t understand why the board allows a flag to hang from an angled pole mounted to the side of a house but disallows a flag flown from a free-standing vertical pole.

“Where I’ve been, fighting wars, displaying the flag, military installations, parades, everything else, the flag is vertical. And I’ve done it that way since I was in the Army,” Barfoot said.

“Dad sort of feels like this is the end,” said Nicholls, who lives a few doors away. But she said yesterday that she and her husband are attempting to generate support for her father’s cause, a flag-raising rite that he has undertaken for most of his life.

Barfoot received the Medal of Honor for heroic action on the battlefield during World War II in Italy and fought as well in the Korean and Vietnam wars. A portion of a highway in rural Mississippi, his native state, was named in his honor this fall. A building at McGuire Veterans Affairs Medical Center, Richmond, also carries his name.

Barfoot regularly began flying the flag on Veterans Day this year, after he returned from an extended trip that began in September, despite the Sussex Square board’s decision.

He said last month that not flying the flag would be a sacrilege to him.

“There’s never been a day in my life or a place I’ve lived in my life that you couldn’t fly the American flag,” he said.

Barfoot’s neighbors are split, with some saying that the community covenants should have no exceptions, and that Barfoot was given the community’s covenants before he bought the property. Others support him regardless.

Sally Hedleston, whose house has a legal flagpole attached, said she has asked board members to make an exception for the Medal of Honor recipient.

“Some board members say that rules are rules — well, how many of them have broken the speed limit every day here?” she asked.

I understand that there are rules — apparently sacred rules, more sacred than a military flag raising ritual — but really, is it that important? A 90-year-old Medal of Honor recipient who has fought for his country in three wars wants to raise and lower the flag every day in honor of his country. What kind of person must you be to find a problem with that? I can’t see why having a flag flying from a vertical flagpole would matter anyhow. A flagpole is not exactly an eyesore, and that’s what most HOA rules are about. They want the neighborhood to look good. And, as the neighbor above points out, there are likely any number of rules that the officers themselves break on a regular basis. It’s not a life or death situation, it’s not going to cause some kind of great tragedy if you let the man fly his flag. It’s a fine display of patriotism, but these people are angry enough about it to seek legal representation to stop it.

To be such a control freak is really pathetic. I hope that the HOA officers realize that the vast majority of the public opinion is against them, and let this drop. This man was awarded the Medal of Honor, and you’re telling him he can’t even fly a flag in his own front yard, after serving his country that way?

Honestly, there are just no words. That’s a whole new low to sink to.