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Last night, I went to the Landing with my boyfriend to get dinner. It’s right on the St. John’s River, it was sunset, we thought it would be a nice night. Little did we know that the quarterfinals of the Hooters Bikini Contest were being held there. So much for a romantic dinner and stroll down the St. John’s, huh? We decided to just eat dinner and go home, as it was crowded and noisy, and the Barbie Brigade was everywhere.
We ate dinner on the patio. There was a large group sitting near us of mostly younger girls and guys dressed for clubbing. The girls were wearing tight jeans or short skirts, stiletto heels, and shirts that showed the maximum amount of cleavage and/or stomach without being completely indecent. They were drinking and being generally loud and overly flirty, hanging all over the guys they were with and cheering on the Hooters girls.
With them were two older women, in their 40s or 50s. They were dressed the same way and acting the same way as the girls they were with (their daughters, maybe?). In fact, I think they might have been outdrinking the younger girls. The younger girls were much better behaved, actually. While, yes, they were cheering on the bikini contestants and being a little rowdy, the cougars put them to shame. Their clothes were skankier, their jeans tighter, their heels higher, and their drinks emptied faster. They were dancing on the patio in their slutty clothes, screaming “WOOOOOO!” over and over again, and flirting with every man that so much as looked their way.
I wanted to scream at them, “ACT YOUR F*CKING AGE!”
There seem to be more and more forty-something women who think it makes them look “flirty” and “fun”, or “young” and “hip”, or whatever, to act like they’re still eighteen. Um, newsflash ladies: it doesn’t. It makes you look like a pathetic older woman trying to desperately hang on to your youth at any cost. The words “aging gracefully” obviously never crossed these ladies’ minds.
For you men out there reading this, I’m curious what your thoughts on this subject are. I honestly can’t understand why so many older women are acting like they’re still in college. What kind of image are they looking to portray, and guys, is it attractive to you? It just seems to me like another remnant of the Boomer idealogy to never grow up at any costs.
As much as I was annoyed and repulsed by these women, I was embarassed for them. And if that was my mother acting like that in public with me, I would be embarassed to be seen with her. My mother is a beautiful woman who has aged well (she barely looks her age), and she’s still energetic and smart and living a full life. But she by no means is trying to live the same kind of lifestyle that twenty-year-olds are living, thank God. I mean, really, aren’t you supposed to grow out of that kind of behavior at some point?
It’s not like you have to start living like a nun the minute you turn forty. But good Lord, exercize some self-control and restraint! You can have fun without dressing and acting like an eighteen-year-old drunken sorority girl. For all you cougars out there, please grow up. It doesn’t make you look sexy, young, or fun to act like you’re eighteen.
As a guy, I think people acting like this are disgusting. I sang in a coverband in Tampa and saw many at the bars we played. The older women acting like this are skanks. Don’t ask me to explain it psychologically, I think you probably are close to having that right. Anyway, the only people these women are attractive to are either desperately insecure, or have had entirely too much to drink.
Shannon in AZ says: The difference is maturity. As I have aged, now at 44, my evaluation of the actions of women are based more on maturity and self-confidence of who they are. The younger women don’t have that and instead exploit their ability to get younger men to think about sex and desire and attractiveness and fun. Women know very well that what they wear gets men to thinking in certain areas and the younger ones exploit that power a lot more. Older women hopefully no longer feel the need to try to exploit that power over men. They have already learned that they will always have that power as long as they use it properly, not abuse it.
My comments, in no particular order:
1. A woman should act her age. Period!
2. A woman’s most important sex organ is her brain. The behavior you described (and of which I have seen similar) was definitely not portrayal of the brain in its best light.
3. There are some men who do prefer older women. I myself had occasion to date an older woman when I was single. Just because a woman is older does not mean that she is not attractive or sexy. Many men have had successful marriages or similar relationships with women several years their senior. But such can only work when both parties act in a mature manner. A man will not and cannot respect an older woman who deports herself as a skanky hot piece of flesh.
4. I do not see how the younger women accompanying these older skankeroos can possibly respect them — particularly if there is anything in the nature of a mother-daughter relationship. What kind of example is being set?
5. Along the same lines, what kind of example is being set for the sons of such women? What kind of self-confidence can a man develop if he grows up seeing his mother act like a skank, instead of assuming the responsibilities she should be shouldering? Is this type of behavior conducive to the healthy development of a man? How would a man raised in such an environment treat his own wife (if indeed, he ever were to achieve marriage)?
6. Is there a mixed message being sent to the women of the world? Just what (and I myself am not sure) is the difference between a woman using various creams and cosmetics to eliminate (or at least downplay) the wrinkles on her face, and the behavior you described? Are both of these examples a manifestation of a woman’s reaction to the message that she should not appear too old? Is it only a matter of degree? [I do not claim to understand how a woman’s mind works, even after 20+ happy years of marriage to one.].
JamesT says: It falls in the category of “Getting old sucks.” I think for some, approaching that age (take your pick, 35, 40, 50, whatever) in their life makes some people wistful for the days when they were young, had a stomach like a drum and not a responsibility in the world. You see if in men, the dreaded mid-life crisis. It is a function of getting old combined with wanting to have less weight of responsibilities the desire to be attractive/liked. Hiar plugs, falshy cars, liposuction, bo-tox…all part of the same trip, not wanting to age. Which you cannot change, so your choices are to do your ageing gracefully, or fight it and make a scene.
Casey, right on as usual.
I think some women have some kind of disconnect between looking sexy and what kind of reaction that really elicits from men. Yes, a woman can go out in public looking like a naughty nurse and she will get attention. She will have a level of power over the men in the vicinity. But she will not command respect and I don’t believe these women understand that. They do not understand that you can be sexy and respected. Funny, I was planning to blog on this very topic today. May still, the day is young.
Nunya says: I’m sure if you had notified the manager, he/she would have seen to it that everyone present acted in a way that YOU would find proper!
Nunya, you hit the nail on the head. That’s exactly the point I was trying to make.
(rolling eyes NOW.)
I’m 43, and have been married for 18 years, so I am long out of playing the field, however I am not totally ignorant of the bar scene.
My guess is that these older women are thinking they need to act like kids (20 somethings – no offense meant to those truly in that age category) in order to attract men who are otherwise looking to bed a 20-something.
I would guess the youngsters accompanying these moms — and by calling them that I believe they would be more embarrassed than to call them skanks — are doing so out of some kind of obligation. Either that, or they know that they’ll be getting schtupped by some guy long before their moms will, so they don’t care.
jack M. says: Hi Cassy,
Love the blog. A few thoughts on your post here:
1. We live in a world where the worst thing you can do is “judge” someone, because being “judgmental” is somehow worse than behaving immaturely or being immoral. Sex and the City had an episode devoted to this idea (yes, I’m a straight guy, the writing is good, even if the acting is bad and the plots are unbelievable and the message is shallow). We’re not supposed to call someone out for acting boorishly, bully-ingly, or stupidly (unless of course it is a white male with a mullet/ dancing/ in an authority position. Then judge him all you want! He’s an oppressor. Ok, sorry, moving on-).
2. We’re especially not allowed to judge women on what they wear. Feminists thought takes any criticism of a woman to cover up as a “blaming the victim” mentality (implying all men are rapists, natch) and people being extremely prudish. It’s the whole “it’s my body, I can do whatever I want to it!” mentality that also leads to much more horrific consequences–see Planned Parenthood.
3. Couple these with the modern feminist notion that a woman is “sexy” at any age. Now, plastic surgery, advances in exercise/personal training, and cosmetics have most certainly made us as a whole more healthy and sexually attractive for longer than in the past. But modern thought is that women are always “hot”–as if being “hot” is the only goal of life. Anyone who dares declare that a woman of a certain age isn’t a “babe” or a “cougar” is bashing women and imposing an “andro-hetero-world view” (actual quote I heard in college). So, in other words, anyone who someone declares hot is hot, and anyone who declares otherwise is backwards.
4. Put these together, and its no wonder you get women like the ones you observed. Freed of social constraints (re: no one allowed to tell them to cover up/leave) and told they can do whatever they want (because consequences are for suckers) and that being “hot” is the only goal in life, they act like drunk 21 year olds because that is exactly what society’s current rules strive for: that everyone can act like a drunken, skanky, self-centered, superficial, immature 21 year old college girl (note: not all 21 year old girls are like that).
5. Lastly, these women are clearly advertising themselves for easy sex. Now, many men (myself included) would enjoy that. In fact, I prefer older women sexually, if only because a 21 year old women has no idea what to do in bed (and yes, it does matter). But I prefer older women who are not merely the free hookers you describe. For a one night stand, these women are appetizing (especially after a few beers and bout of loneliness), but they are definitely too unstable for any meaningful relationship, so they get dumped a lot, which in turn fuels their belief that being “hot” is all that matters–because that is the only way they receive any intimacy.
It’s a vicious circle for both parties: the women seek intimacy, but only find it by acting/dressing in a way that guarantees few lasting intimate relationships, thus making her dress/act that way again to get a few fleeting moments of fun. The man feels lonely/horny, which makes him hook up with desperate women, who are in turn too desperate to form any bond with him, which leads to the break up/one night stand, and thus makes the man lonely/horny again another night.
Perhaps I gave this too much thought. But great posting.
jack M. says: And for Expatriate Owl:
My guess is that the younger women brought the older women for 3 reasons :
1. Comparison shopping–the younger women are insecure about themselves, and so brought women along that they felt were less attractive than them, thus guaranteeing that they wouldn’t be the least attractive women there.
2. They’re older friends from work/school/etc. whom the girls think are “fab” for acting just like them and they won’t judge them because “judging is wrong.”
3. They’re moms/older sisters who never get out and hooked onto the younger ones and did not let go.
Or perhaps some of the men brought them—perhaps they have older, sknaky girlfriends or moms or older sisters who are trying desperately to act 21.
21 was nice, but its over now. Just like 10 years old was nice, but its over.
petrita1 says: Cassy,
1)exercise (sp?)
2)It sounds to me like these women were behaving inappropriately for any age, with the exception of “Hooters Night”. You decided it should be like any other night because you were offended.
3)You gave the example of two “pathetic” older women, but did not provide examples of seeing this elsewhere, so that it appears “more and more” older women are acting this way. Your friend Jay, however, backed you up with his comment.
4) You were wise to leave early, however, if you were really that offended you could have left before dinner and found another place to eat. Instead, you chose to stay and be “offended”.
5) Next time, go to ladies league night at the bowling alley. The women swear like sailors and you can be really offended. :p
Stephen J. says: Without disagreeing that it’s a good idea generally for people to act their age, within reason, I have to ask: is it really so appalling that two women, admittedly past 40 but still in relatively good shape and health, decided to just cut loose and have fun one evening?
We have no idea who these people are. For all anybody here knows, this was their one night out in a long time, or they were college friends who had finally seen each other after years apart and were ignoring those years out of joy at the reunion. Sure, they may have been behaving foolishly, but I don’t remember when folly became an unforgiveable sin. There are far more embarrassing or pathetic things to do than get drunk, rowdy and flirty on an evening out.
I can understand feeling discomfort and distaste, but it just rubs me the wrong way to take one evening’s behaviour and use it as evidence to dismiss two women I don’t even know as a discredit to their sex, as seems to be the prevailing opinion. Desperately affecting a bygone youth out of fear of loneliness is certainly pitiable; but enjoying yourself without a fig for a stranger’s opinion is something very different, and need not be a bad thing. It can be harder to tell the two apart than we realize.
Stephen J. says: And it also occurs to me that expecting people of any age in the audience of the Hooters Bikini Contest Quarterfinals to behave with calm, dignified decorum may have been asking a bit much.
Wild Bill says: As a 50 something (married) man I wouldn’t find that look or behavior attractive in a 40/50 year old woman. I guess I’d prefer someone a bit more sedate that hooting it up with 20 year olds. Mature women have their own kind of hottness without borrowing from the younger crowd.
AmeriDan says: The. World. Does. Not. Revolve. Around. You.
Or. Your. Standards.
petrita1:
This was, of course, just one example. But this kind of behavior has become a lifestyle. It’s so widespread and mainstream, that we have a word for it — cougar! This is the type of behavior I see literally any time I go to any bar or club. You’ll see these kinds of women there, without fail. It’s the Sex and the City effect.
And I didn’t leave early because I was just SO offended by those two specific women — I left early because it was crowded and loud, and Mike and I just weren’t feeling it, so we went home. I noted the behavior of those women and thought it would make an interesting blog post. I didn’t spend the entire meal obsessing over them. My boyfriend is much more interesting than they are. 😉
And Ameridan:
Of. Course. The. World. Does. Not. Revolve. Around. Me. Or. My. Standards. But. On. My. Blog. I. Will. Say. Whatever. It. Is. I. Think. About. Any. Subject. I’d. Like. My. Opinion. Is. What. You. Will. Read. Here. And. That. Is. What. This. Post. Is. If. You. Don’t. Like. It. You. Aren’t. Required. To. Read.
Sean says: In these women, there is a great void, and they cannot skank it up enough, cannot abase themselves enough, cannot abuse themselves ever enough to fill it. When they are alone, they are completely empty, and they do not have enough self respect to feel lonely. They slowly get ready for the next outing, mentally exhausted, and immediately push out any memory of how they were as children, or how their mothers and grandmothers were. Peace, they do not know, nor contentment, nor what it means to live the sublime. They are using up a lot of years from the back end of their lives, and they know the end, and ignore it. Life is something beautiful, to be savored, treasured, respected, explored, enjoyed. Their remaining years they will hardly even see, it will be a blur, and in the end, bitter as gall for the opportunities to see the beauty of life that were passed like a roadside marker. I would never condemn them, they are free to live their lives as they see fit, and I believe that is how it should be. But Ah! The riches of life wasted, and you only get one.
AmeriDan says: I’m sorry, I thought this was a “comment” section. I also, foolishly, believed this was a public blog.
Maybe you should dump the blog and start a diary? While you’re at it, have Hawkins stop linking you at CG if you don’t like new readers.
I like your work at RWN and Wizbang, but if the above is any indication of the content here, you have no worries of me reading your stuff ever again.
This is a public blog, and this is a comment section. You’re free to speak your mind — respectfully and civilly. Typing. Like. This. And. Making. A. Smartass. Comment. Is. Rude.
And it’ll get a rude comment in return.
Trust me, I like new readers. And I hope you keep reading, I really do. My point in the comment above was that you can agree or disagree with me, but understand that this is my blog, where I write my opinions. You can feel free to disagree and say why, but as I said, respectfully. Be a smartass, and that’s what you’ll get in return. No one is forced to read my blog, and no one is forced to agree with my opinion. However, my opinion is what you are going to get when you come here.
Perhaps expressing my opinion (in this case, that older women shouldn’t dress and act like drunken skanky eighteen-year-olds) on my blog means that I think the world revolves around me, but I’m somehow missing it.
Frank White says: I’m all for some 40 year old skanks throwing themselves at me. In the words of James Caan on The Simpsons, “Some guys like a challenge…not me”
~gymply says: Bring on the skanks!!!
jack says: How old are you, Cassy? Not forty, I’ll bet. And I love your bikini shots. Are you planning on trading that bikini in for a granny suit when someone younger decides that you’re too old for it? One of my daughters would insist that it’s now, BTW–not because she’s seen the shots, but because you are unimaginably old to her right now.
Old is a very subjective word. I don’t feel old–but I’ve got an adult son and two daughters in their senior year at high school.
To a lot of people that makes me ‘old’.
But I don’t feel old. I still like the same things I liked when I was twenty. And I dress however I want–in clothes I like and find comfortable. And a lot of those clothes are the same type of clothes I wore when I was twenty.
Is that a problem?
I’ve always found it odd that there are actually people out their who believe that a person should wear the clothes someone else decides are ‘age appropriate'(this does not apply to parents telling children what they can wear). Who is anyone to decide what I should wear. I’m an adult. If I wear something that you don’t like don’t hang out with me, make fun of me to your friends–but don’t think that you’ve got some kind of valid point, some kind of objective truth that you’re expounding on.
You’ve got an opinion–a childish one, at that. You’re saying ‘eewww’ about the ‘old’ people acting in ways you don’t think old people should act–just like that daughter of mine.
The adult reaction can be shock, dismay–even disgust and a feeling that they’re looking and acting ludicrous–coupled with the fact that, unless they’re breaking the law, it’s none of your business.
Tim Gilbert says: I can think of a couple of possible reasons.
Behavior rewarded is behavior repeated. As long as dressing and acting that way gets them what they want (male attention), they aren’t likely to change.
They might be trying to recreate the nostalgically remembered good old days. Especially if one is recently out of a divorce and trying to feel “sexy” again.
They might not have the intelligence, character and maturity to attract older men, and since they no longer have the bodies of their youth, they think they must act sluttier than the young girls around them to attract young men.
Mostly I think it’s sad. Of course, I find the same skanky behavior to unattractive in young women also, so take it as you will.
smg45acp says: One night does not a skank make.
I would be interested to see if the women you saw are out doing the same thing four nights a week or this was just one wild night out being crazy.
If it was a one time thing, I can overlook it and not put the slut label on them.
Otherwise they have serious mental issues.
All that hard drinking is going to age them even faster, or maybe they weren’t that old and have been drinking hard for 10 years and were only 28 nyears old.
Rick Steele says: Maybe these gals just gave up looking for a guy their own age who could keep up with them. My dear friend, a gorgeous and sexy 62(!) year old tried the bar scene, and now is doing the internet-dating thing. All she wants is a fun guy who can go out and have a great time, and then go home and be intimate. She goes on 3-4 dates a week!
Apparently, there is a reason for the glut of ED commercials and medications on the market, because the poor girl just can’t get lucky.
Maybe these ladies gave up, finally, on men their own age? I tell her now and then to give it a try, but she’s not willing to cross the age line, whatever that is. Yet. Maybe a few more frustrating dates will put her in that situation, who knows?
I certainly hope so, as I’m below her current minimum age requirement.
smg45acp says: Cas,
in your picture you have in the upper right of your blog is that a 1911A1 45acp?
If so, I have the exact same set-up. A 1911A1 with the same lazor sight.
AmeriDan says: The revolving around you remark was meant for your disappointment at not having the St Johns River all to yourself. Especially when you are going to a resturant anywhere near a Hooters on a Saturday night.
The standards part was aimed at your remarks about the others around you. Just re-read jack’s comment above, he puts it much better than I can.
For the record, I apologize for Doing. This. and will stop. I do retain the right to be a smartass though
Best regards,
ameriDan
jack M. says: Ameridan–the bug that crawled up your behind and died? Time to remove it.
The old women were inappropriate and idiotic. Cass called them out. Just because you think you live in a world where nothing anyone ever does bothers you and you hate “judgmental” people doesn’t mean its true.
I can see you’re one of those “the worst thing you can do is judge someone” morons who would let a crime occur right in front of them and not do anything about it so as to save yourself the hassle, and also because “its not your business.”
Here’s hoping someone loud, obnoxious, and rude does something completely socially inappropriate right in front you, and when you raise your high pitched nasal voice to tell them how wrong it is, you’re shushed by people who tell you, “its none of your business, don’t be so judgmental!”
Now bugger off.
I am 40, or will be in a couple months, and I have long ago traded in my bikini for a granny suit with elastic at the wrists and ankles. I kid. I do try not to dress or behave in a manner that would embarrass my 15-year-old son, no mean feat for a drinking gal who curses like every night is league night. I don’t get the whole ‘cougar’ phenomenon, not even the name. To me it implies that you’d have the morals of a large alley cat. And what could possibly be the attraction of dating someone who isn’t your equal? Give me a guy my age or thereabouts, someone who’s lived a little, has seen a live girl, perhaps? Someone who has interesting things to say. Someone I can learn from. Someone who can do a 1040A.
AmeriDan says: Wow, what a thrashing! jack M has attacked me with such a sharp argument… I shall bleed for days.
Have you no mercy on judgemetally challenged moroons such as myself?
jack M. says: Ameridan–
Ah, irony! The last refuge of the left winger. Perhaps next you’ll tell us you were only joking and that I shouldn’t take things so seriously. And then rant about global warming, of course.
jack M. says: ameridan…..ameridan….where are you….
Jack, Ameridan, let’s play nice.
Jack, seeing as how Ameridan reads CG, Wizbang, RWN, and me, I’d assume he’s not a liberal. So let’s not call him one unless we know that he actually is, OK? Name-calling is reserved for the left side of the aisle. Just because someone disagrees with you — or me — doesn’t mean we automatically attack them or try to run them off.
Ameridan, if you are a liberal, you’re still welcome here. Just as long as you’re a nice liberal, and not an obnoxious liberal troll.
jack M. says: Ok, Cas. But he’s acting redonk.
Jim says: Ben Franklin was right. Older women rock! Younger women are real dolls but I’m through playing with dolls. Woman of any age that act like skanks are NOT attractive. ‘Nuff said.
Frank says: In his book, Bill Clinton responded when asked why he had an affair with Monica, (“because he could”).
So why do young and older women act like this? Because they can. They have no concept of the respect hit they take and, make no mistake about it, there is only one outcome these men expect. A bikini contest and then home with my honey…. An old song onece said: ‘the more drinks I have the better you look’.
A couple of thoughts.
No one lives forever. Most reach 65 – 85, whatever. There is no dress or look that works then and there is no putting it off.
I have met women who are more interested in their dignity than what a few drunk ooglers think of their exposed bodies. In any crowd you can tell the difference. They stand out.
Self control is a tough lesson, but well worth the learning.
Joe says: The “Act your age” trope is pure bullshit. My paternal grandmother and my wife’s paternal great-grandmother both lived into their nineties and were extremely active. On the other hand, my wife’s paternal grandmother (the oldest daughter of the above) died in her mid-70s and “acted her age” to the point of absurdity.
So some older women went out and acted like skanks. So what? Frankly, it’s better than old farts who act like their about to die all the time.
Here’s my manly spin. I’m a 29-YO father of a 9-YO son and a highly-devoted husband of ten years. In my home town, these women fall into two categories: “Trophy Wives” and “Pajama Mamas”. The Trophy Wives are the variety that have spent a lot of time under the knife. They may or may not be as charismatic as Cougars (I think it all depends on the amount of booze in them at the time). The Pajama Mamas are the ones that have a wardrobe completely made up of velvet pajamas (the kind that Susan Somers sells on T. V.), work out pants, baby T’s and high-heels.
Let me say that I think that well-aged women are SEXY! The late 30’s to 50’s are a wonderful, beautiful time for women to shine. A hot 55-year old woman is far more attractive than a hot 18-year old girl. Let’s face it, it’s easy for a girl to be hot when she’s 18! Now, notice I said “well-aged” and “hot” and not “renovated” or “stretched , tanned and lifted.” There’s a big difference there.
Here’s the bottom line: Looking good where you are looks good on women (and probably men too, but I can’t speak to that). Attempting to look like something else is sad. Period.
AmeriDan says: jack M. Says:
“ameridan…..ameridan….where are you….”
Sorry, I’ve been over a KOS getting my daily talking points. Did you know that Booosh=Hitler?
Jack, you have called me a moron, said I speak in a “high nasal pitch”, told me to “bugger off” from a blog that is not even yours, run this thread off topic by bringing in politics, and said I had a dead “bug up my behind”.
But calling me left wing is punching below the belt!
In the future, when I comment here, please assume that I will ignore any comments you direct towards me.
Armand says: Older, hot, skanky, women deserve to have sex with me. I am not age biased. Plus their digs tend to be nicer. Yes I am a man whore.
Don’t judge me.
Jaxsolo says: Cassy,
You ate at Hooter’s? I can understand the stroll on the St Johns, but Hooter’s? Forget the skanky women, the food there (and at all Hooter’s) is skanky.
Barry
Mandarin
P.S. Love the blog. I read you frequently. Keep up the great work. I agree with everything you wrote; I am as old or older than those women you described; they are nothing short of an embarrassment.
Nana says: “the quarterfinals of the Hooters Bikini Contest were being held there.”
So glad the ladies were able to unwind. Who knows what they have to put up with during the week?
Dancing and drinking IN A BAR sounds like using the space for its intended purpose to me. They chose to dance/you chose to stay. The Dining & Nightlife paragraphs on the Jackson Landing web site you posted seem to encourage this behavior.
If they were single I don’t see a problem with them partying like they’re 20. If they were married I’d hope the girls night out ended with them all leaving together.
Dressing like you’re old and sitting demurely by the wall while the younger generation dances is not growing old gracefully. If I feel like I’m 20 when I’m 50 the world can just turn their head if they don’t want to see me flopping around on the dance floor. And if I want to get plastic surgery to look the way I feel, all the better for those that choose to look. 🙂
Many of you have assumed that we ate at Hooters; I guess I should have been more clear. We most definitely did NOT eat at Hooters; what the hell kind of romantic dinner would that be?!
There is a Hooters at the Landing, but the contest was taking place on the stage in the middle of the Landing, not at the restaurant. Again, did NOT know it was going on. 😉
And for those wondering why I didn’t just leave, it’s because we had already driven downtown from the beaches (those of you who aren’t Jax residents can’t possibly understand how much of a drive that is) and had already been seated and ordered. Also, as I said before, I was perfectly happy enjoying the company of my boyfriend. These women did not ruin my entire night, nor was I just SOOOOOO offended!. I noticed how they were acting, got a little annoyed, maybe rolled my eyes, and then thought to myself, “Hey, I could write a blog post about this.” From there, I went right back to enjoying my dinner with Mike and didn’t give them a second thought until the next day, when I wrote this post. Unlike liberals, my life does not revolve around being offended.
Also, hello Barry! You’re the first Jacksonville reader I’ve heard from. If you ever see me around, please feel free to stop and say hi, I’d love to actually meet some of my readers. 🙂
Ralph Gizzip says: I just remember what an old guy I used to work with said about women over 40, “No yell, no swell, just grateful as Hell.”
I’m in one of those May-December marriages. That’s according to the books I’d caught my wife reading shortly after we were married…books with titles like ‘Loving a Younger Man’. (What? It wasn’t me? That old Bread song still comes to mind… “I found her diary underneath a tree…”)
In private, I encourage her to act like she was still the young 35-yr-old she was when we met. (I was 29) In public, neither of us should act like that. I’m pushing 50, and she? Well, you do the math…
Act your age in public. You are setting an example. Whether you know it or not, people are watching.
Yes, the older women are acting ridiculously. But so are the young women who act the same way. Guzzling hop-flavored bong water and wiggling your parts at people may be understandable in the immature, but it is not admirable.
Brad says: We watched an older associate (he had teenagers) make a total fool of himself in a bar. See, he was getting a divorce. Dumpy wife, she was so yesterday, and he was such a hunk. New toupee; workin on the ol beer belly. There were even pics of him on the bar wall in his skivvies mud wrestling a little more than his conscience and a little less than his vanity. (The only love that’s blind is self love.)
My friend, the owner of the company we both worked for, said: “Some people think any bar girl is better than the lady left home with the kids.” Not being married at the time I just thought he looked like an idiot. Now I know he just failed to grow up.
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