Life throws you curveballs

Life throws you curveballs

I wanted to start this post by first thanking all of you for all of the kind comments and e-mails Matt and I have received the past week or so. It really does mean so much to the both of us.

Now, we have some news I might as well go ahead and share. It may not be as important as the automaker bailout or yet another corrupt Illinois politician in the news, but it is big news to me.

As many of you know, Matt just returned to me from Iraq about a month and a half ago. He’s in the Marine Corps infantry — a rifleman, specifically — and it’s been great having home, even with the havoc it’s wreaked on my schedule! We had tentative news that his next deployment would be in 2010 on a med float. And, as those of you on my Facebook or who follow me on Twitter already know, those plans have changes.

Matt is being sent back to Iraq… and fairly soon. We found out last week.

My reaction has, of course, been predictable. I cried and cried. He just came back, and now he has to leave again? It seemed so unfair. But I got over my pity party relatively quickly and right now, I’m in North Carolina doing the best I can to be there for him. This will be his third deployment to Iraq, and he’s getting tired of going — especially now that it’s, as he says, “boring”. The biggest issue he’s facing is the pain this is causing everyone he’s leaving behind: me, his family, his friends. If he were an unattached man with no loved ones to worry about, this would likely be much easier on him.

As for me, I’m preparing myself for six more months of solitude. From what we can tell, he’s going to be outside the wire much more often this time around. This last deployment, we were able to talk every day, something that seems very unlikely this time around. I’m not expecting to hear from him much at all, which only makes it harder to bear and easier to worry. I’m trying as hard as I can to be strong for him, though, to be supportive and let him know I’m here for him. While I obviously don’t love his going away to war yet again, of course I support him, like I did when he reenlisted and I’ll stand by him through this. It isn’t easy, but I knew that this was part of the package when we first started dating. His willingness to fight for his country and for what he believes in only make me love him more.

There is something I hope all of you will be able to help me with. He isn’t scheduled to leave for a little while, but I figured I’d go ahead and post this to gauge interest and give you guys some notice. Matt has decided to join Any Marine. For those unfamiliar, Any Marine is a branch-off of Any Soldier. It is similar to Soldiers Angels. The way it will work is, when Matt deploys, he will register his unit on the system, with their address, where they are, how many Marines are in the unit, and how long they’ll be gone. He’ll also have a blog of sorts on the site to keep people informed of what’s going on and what they need. You guys, along with anyone else who wants to, can “adopt” his unit and send letters and care packages to show your support. You’ll not only be helping Matt and I out, but showing support to other Marines as well. Everything sent over there is shared and equally distributed; Matt is simply the point-of-contact. I’m hoping some of you would be willing to help us out in this; it would mean a lot to them. And, hey, you don’t even necessarily need to wait — if you are interested, you can head over and adopt a unit now!

So, that is pretty much the question I’m posing in this post. Would any of you guys be interested in this? If so, let me know in the comments and when the time comes, I’ll let you all know and post the link to Matt’s page so you guys can adopt his unit. The way we’re looking at it is, sometimes, life throws you curveballs and we just want to make it as positive an experience as we can. How better than by helping out some deployed Marines?

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14 Comments
  • Absolutely. Sorry life is throwing you a few turns now, but it looks like you’ve found a way to adapt just like the mature adult you’ve shown yourself to be, so many times.

    I can tell you were crying. Now dry those tears, close up your <b> tag, fill in that incomplete sentence, and know we’re pulling for you and Matt. God bless.

  • Big Al says:

    Yes, I’m very interested in this sort of thing. I’ve a real close friend who’s son (Air Force)just got back Sunday from a location that shall remain nameless. We never could send him anything cause we didn’t know for sure where he was. On his way home he found out (volunteered) he was fixing to go to somewhere else (nameless also) in just a few weeks, so again we probably can’t even write. He already did one tour in S. Korea. But he’s young, fresh, and single. It’s all grand adventure for him right now. His momma ain’t real happy however.
    Our service men and women need this type of thing and its a good way for us to serve those that serve us.

  • Site Admin says:

    It was an < a > tag – I fixed it.

  • Cas says:

    Thank you Daniel! I wrote this on an iPhone, and it wouldn’t let me edit it!

  • Instinct says:

    Would love to help out in any way I can. I remember being deployed during Christmas and the cards, letters and gifts from home made everything a lot better.

    I discovered while I was out there that one of the most valuable items every was salsa. My parents sent me about 10 jars of salsa and I had to keep it under lock because everyone wanted some to drown the taste of the food with.

    Sorry he is going back out so soon, but he’ll be fine. Look what he has to come home to 🙂

  • Will says:

    Godspeed Matt, return safely. And yes I would love to adopt a Marine.

  • Stephen J. says:

    I started out saying, “Wow, that’s terrible,” and then I thought I should amend that. Which is not to say it isn’t really unpleasant, and were I separated from my sweetie for that long I’d be really unhappy too. But for what it’s worth, you can console yourself that (a) things are going so well over there that he’s likely to be much safer than he was on previous tours, and (b) there are many loved ones back home who have already lost their brave soldiers. So sucky as this is, and it is truly sucky, it’s not the worst that could happen and it won’t last forever.

    Prayers for both of you guys, and give Matt a manly whap on the shoulder for me.

  • Mat says:

    Yeah, count me in.

  • Glenn says:

    would love to help out.

  • SkydiverRick says:

    I’m in!

  • Lee says:

    Cassy, sorry for the hard-to-swallow news but I’m proud of Matt just as I am my son and all the other guys and girls serving our country. Please thank him for me. Godspeed to him and my prayers follow him-
    Lee

  • William says:

    My wife’s grandfather was a Marine in WWII. Her brother was a Marine a few years ago (now he works making ammo for the marines! :D). I have relatives that were in the Army and Navy back in the day. So, absolutely, post the Any Marine link when the time comes. I have never heard of Any Soldier, nor Any Marine, so thanks for that heads up! 🙂

  • BIg Mo says:

    Count me in. PS – even though we’ve never met, we included you and your Marine in my small Bible study group on Sunday, along with a relative who is heading back to Afghanistan as a civilian.

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