Men: Women Do Praise Your Goodness.
Men: Women Do Praise Your Goodness.
It’s not often one can read a confession of spousal abuse in a major paper. However, on Friday, WaPo published an unhinged rant from a female confessing the emotional abuse of her husband and holding all men as intrinsically evil.
The author of the piece, Victoria Bissell Brown, retired history professor at Grinnell College, spends 30 minutes screaming at her husband – not for what he actually did but as a symbol of all men everywhere:
This was real yelling. This was 30 minutes of from-the-gut yelling. Triggered by a small, thoughtless, dismissive, annoyed, patronizing comment. Really small. A micro-wave that triggered a hurricane. I blew. Hard and fast. And it terrified me. I’m still terrified by what I felt and what I said. I am almost 70 years old. I am a grandmother. Yet in that roiling moment, screaming at my husband as if he represented every clueless male on the planet (and I every angry woman of 2018), I announced that I hate all men and wish all men were dead.
I’m happy she’s not a professor anymore and I wonder how this misandrist treated her male students over the years.
And I suspect this is not the first time Brown has gone-off on her husband and he has put up with it.
He sat, hunched and hurt, and he listened. For a moment, it occurred to me to be grateful that I’m married to a man who will listen to a woman. The winds calmed ever so slightly in that moment. And then the storm surge welled up in me as I realized the pathetic impotence of nice men’s plan to rebuild the wreckage by listening to women. As my rage rushed through the streets of my mind, toppling every memory of every good thing my husband has ever done (and there are scores of memories), I said the meanest thing I’ve ever said to him: Don’t you dare sit there and sympathetically promise to change. Don’t say you will stop yourself before you blurt out some impatient, annoyed, controlling remark. No, I said, you can’t change. You are unable to change. You don’t have the skills and you won’t do it.
I was struck by Brown’s focus on male evil while never examining her own behavior in this encounter. She sandbagged her husband over a stray remark and then excuses it by making herself “every angry woman of 2018”.
This is the toxic narcissism of feminism we have witnessed in the public square being played out inside a home. This is an arrogant display of entitlement and female supremacy. Ultimately, this is the kind of behavior that not only destroys marriages but poisons relationships even as they first form. Why would any sane man want to build a relationship with a woman who is proud of exhibiting the tics of every hoary stereotype of a controlling, over-emotional, unreasoning, perpetually immature female incapable of rational thought, logic, or dispassionate discussion?
I hope Brown’s children arrange an intervention for her before her abuse of her husband goes any further.
Men have sacrificed and crippled themselves physically and emotionally to feed, house, and protect women and children. None of their pain or achievement is registered in feminist rhetoric, which portrays men as oppressive and callous exploiters.
I love men. I love your strength, your dedication, your honesty. I’ve never expected perfection from you, especially when I know I can’t offer perfection in myself. I actually understand and appreciate the innate differences of the two sexes. In best of circumstances, we compliment each other. We help each other realize our own potential.
As I have previously discussed, you are vital for you children.
I do not want you to imitate the worst of the feminist movement and do as Brown demands — to “organize” as a movement to put on public displays of groveling. No self-respecting Western man (or woman) should ever be bullied into a Maoist Struggle session.
All I ask from men is the same I ask from myself. To wake up each morning with a thankful heart and a promise to do good. That is the fundamental difference between the Left and the West. We know humans are flawed and that change is individual. We look within. We also make peace that we are imperfect. The Left places all blame on “outside forces”. It allows for the cheap grace of being a member of the correct group in public and never fixing yourself.
Dear Men, please don’t give up on Women. There are good ones of us, too.
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